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Should I ask him out?

  • 27-07-2010 9:50am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok, basically was out at the weekend and got chatting to a friend of a friend. Nice guy, funny and charming. We met late in the night and were fairly well on the sauce. Anyway at some point in the night I realised that he was actually best friends with a guy I had a ONS with a few months ago. Damn.
    So he made a move but I felt I had to tell him about the friend issue. It put a stop to things but after a bit he seemed to be ok with it and was still chatting me up. But at the end of the night he was pulled into one taxi and I was put in another and we didnt get to say goodnight.

    We all met up again the saturday night but as I'd had so much booze on fri night I wasn't really in good form and though we chatted it was awkward and stilted and no moves were made. I ended up going home early and when i said goodbye he didn't seem overly bothered.

    One part of me wants to get his number and ask him out. At least I'd know where I stood as I do like him. Another figures he can contact me if he wants.

    It's all just been left up in the air and maybe I should just wait but I might not see him again for months. And part of me is afraid that now the beer googles are off, he just doesn't actually like me.

    Advice?


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  • #2
    Elle Collins
    Closed Accounts Posts: 681 ✭✭✭Elle Collins


    I know this isn't what you'll want to hear but I think you pretty much screwed it up in advance by having the ONS with his mate. Pity there's no such thing as time machines! :D Best thing you can do is move on. Plenty more fish and all that.


  • #3
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    I would leave it. Chances are you will bump into him again so see what happens then. Word of caution, seeing as you had a ONS with his friend, he may think that his luck may be in so if you want anything more than that from him let him know - if you get the chance. Maybe go easier on the sauce the next night out so you can read the signals better and there is also less chance then that you will end up in bed with him


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks. I figured as much. I'm so annoyed with myself.
    I was going through a phase of not wanting to be in relationships when I had the ONS. And this friend was definitely not boyfriend material by any standards. I didn't think it'd come back and bite me in the ass.
    Because this guy is much more my type and more "nice guy" than "bad boy".

    It's a pity but it has just re-enforced my reasons for giving up drunken kisses and ONS etc.

    Oh well. The search resumes :)


  • #5
    redhed35
    Closed Accounts Posts: 31 ✭redhed35


    what have you got to lose by asking him out for a coffee?

    you win some you lose some but you wont get anywhere if you dont try.

    you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince!

    take a chance,ask him out.


  • #6
    Jennifurball
    Closed Accounts Posts: 133 ✭✭Jennifurball


    A coffee is definately a good idea. It shows you aren't just willing to get drunk and into his pants. You can get to know each other on a sober level. If you really like him, go for it, you have nothing to lose.


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  • #7
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    I'd strike up a friendship with him. Link him on Facebook, keep in touch, and leave the ball in his court. If he is interested he will ask you out.


  • #8
    Cullen82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 438 ✭✭Cullen82


    upintheair wrote: »
    I ended up going home early and when i said goodbye he didn't seem overly bothered.

    It's all just been left up in the air and maybe I should just wait but I might not see him again for months. And part of me is afraid that now the beer googles are off, he just doesn't actually like me.

    Advice?

    If I was him, I would not have seemed overly bothered either.That does not mean he was'nt interested. Chances are he is seeing as he had previously made a move on you.

    Everyone will take this differently but if I was him I would probably have assumed that you were'nt interested seeing as you decided to go home early the next night you met up, never mind the fact that you had already knocked him back the night before!

    Advice? The ball is in your court now. I'd suggest you do something about it:D


  • #9
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    Contact him via Facebook or text, if he ignores you - meh, if he doesn't suggest coffee (or tea ick to coffee :o) and meet in the evening sober and on a neutral setting where ye can both see how ye feel!!!!

    Grab life by the balls, no point in saying what if and all that, you have nothing to loose!


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