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  • 26-07-2010 9:55pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I decided to unregister for this. Not because I want to hide my sexuality, or am ashamed of it...it’s more that I have more questions than conclusions at the moment.

    Growing up, from a very early age, I presumed and accepted that I was gay. (“Inescapably gay” as I have seen this feeling phrased.) All the signs were there – some big crushes on those around me. They endure to this day – I’ve been into one person for quite a while (imagine my surprise when they came out of the closet recently!).

    I have never acted on these feelings, although I feel that I would like to, and probably will. I work in a gay friendly environment, and it wouldn’t be a problem to those around me. Like I say – acceptance is not an issue. What muddies the waters is this...I have never felt sexually attracted to a specific member of the opposite sex. But – the thought of having a physical encounter with someone of that nature is not at all a turnoff. I just can’t seem to ever find an emotional intimacy link like I do in same sex attraction.

    So, while I feel emotionally and physically drawn to the same sex, I am not necessarily put off by the physical side of the opposite sex. I would far rather have a same sex long term partner, however I wouldn’t rule out “experimentation” in the short term.

    Would like opinions as to whether this is homosexuality or bisexuality. (I am aware that sexuality can be hard to define, but guiding comments would be nice. Discussing my sexuality is, as might be obvious, new to me.)


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  • #2
    rainbow kirby
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,928 ✭✭✭✭rainbow kirby


    Have you ever heard of the Kinsey scale? Not everything is black or white, there are a lot of shades of grey in the middle. It sounds like you would probably sit at about a 4 or 5 on the Kinsey scale.

    Don't rush to label yourself though. You are what you are, just go with the flow :)


  • #3
    baby and crumble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,512 ✭✭✭baby and crumble


    You know what, the more I go along in life the more I realise what I always thought I knew isn't really right anymore- as in, I always thought I was a lesbian, pure and simple, whereas now... I'm probably in the same boat as you. I am strongly attracted to women, however, the thought of sex with a guy is... kinda hot, in some ways. i don't 'call myself' bisexual, because when i'm attracted to someone, it's usually a woman- my strong romantic attachments are formed with my own gender.

    All in all, i'm pretty much the exact same as you tbh.


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