Can You Fight Chemistry?

LegacyUser

Silly question maybe, but just wondering can you really fight major chemistry?!

I know this guy and we are both seriously attracted to one another, I mean sparks fly when we are in the same room and it's so obvious even to those around us!

Where's the problem you may ask! Well, I just fear that if I give into this and we do tear each others clothes off, etc that it may just turn out to be a mad passionate fling. I think I like this guy enough to have a "more that just wild sex" thing going on. I can't exactly have the chat about what we want and where we are going, as we aren't really friends, more aquaintences in the same social circle. We text ocassionally and it's all very heavy flirting! The attraction here is unreal and it just totally blows my mind!!!

I am so struggling to fight this. I want this guy just as much as he wants me, but fear of the outcome is sort of stopping me. I guess it's inevitable it will happen at some stage! I want it to!

So... do I fight this and be the cautious type? If so, how do I fight it, besides cutting all contact?
Or should I just go with the flow and enjoy some amazing fun with a gorgeously hot guy?

katie99

Go for it! You like him, he likes you. The chemistry is right between you.
It's up to you to decide whether you want a hot, sexual relationship of whether you want to establish a full relationship with him.
So, don't dwell, make up your mind and either way go for it.

StillWaters

I thought from the title one of you was attached. Why on earth would you want to fight it OP?

Wibbs

Yes but biology is far harder a hurdle. If you're both footloose and fancy free, then what's the problem? Worst case scenario you have a wild fling. Best case you turn it into something more. If you have that much of a mutual itch in your pants then the latter is more likely. Either way its not a bad thing.

SarahSassy

ElectricGirl66 wrote: »

I think I like this guy enough to have a "more that just wild sex" thing going on.

Well then dont start off by being his 'friend with benefits' - 9 times out of 10 one person gets more hooked and it sounds like you are already. It seems to be, cos he has your number already that it is a fling he is looking for so enter into any 'relationship' you may have knowing this...

SS

PS its not inevitable - thats what separates us from the chimps - conscious decision making abilities.

LegacyUser

hi there,

from reading your post, I think although you are both sexually attracted to each other, you may be affriad of being used just for sex...which I guess is how a lot of women feel, I know a lot of women find it hard to seperate the two...
If you both are single, and you are looking for some fun, then I would go for it..it may turn into more but may not...just keep that in your mind, that its just fun..

If you are however looking for more, I would ask him out, and take it from there...and at least he knows you are interested in more than just sex, and you will know then what he is looking for..I think its best being upfront with stuff like this, so nobody gets hurt..

My friend recently met a guy (she kind of knew him before and like yourself they had chemistry) from the first date it was about sex, and she was happy enough with that intially, and then when she wanted to plan nights out, he wasnt interested, he kept blowing her off, he dumped her a few weeks later and she was very hurt..
Then I have another friend who can completly seperate the two, and does not mind at all if any casual sex or flings turn out to be more.

I am just mentioning the above, as I think this may be an issue for you..as you havent gone for it yet!! just think about it.

good luck.

ElectricGirl66 wrote: »

Silly question maybe, but just wondering can you really fight major chemistry?!

I know this guy and we are both seriously attracted to one another, I mean sparks fly when we are in the same room and it's so obvious even to those around us!

Where's the problem you may ask! Well, I just fear that if I give into this and we do tear each others clothes off, etc that it may just turn out to be a mad passionate fling. I think I like this guy enough to have a "more that just wild sex" thing going on. I can't exactly have the chat about what we want and where we are going, as we aren't really friends, more aquaintences in the same social circle. We text ocassionally and it's all very heavy flirting! The attraction here is unreal and it just totally blows my mind!!!

I am so struggling to fight this. I want this guy just as much as he wants me, but fear of the outcome is sort of stopping me. I guess it's inevitable it will happen at some stage! I want it to!

So... do I fight this and be the cautious type? If so, how do I fight it, besides cutting all contact?
Or should I just go with the flow and enjoy some amazing fun with a gorgeously hot guy?