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BIL problem

  • 22-07-2010 5:40pm
    #1
    Redpunto
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,024 ✭✭✭


    Last year at our house we had all the OH's family in for a get together. Long story short, BIL got pissed, physically "went" for my OH but didnt get far as OH is well able to defend himself. When BIL coped that he wasnt going to be able to throw a punch at my OH he decided to start calling myself and my child horrible names. The house was full of children, I had to grab them all and stick them in one room and try and blare the TV up. My kids have never been exposed to something like this.

    Now my OH went ballistic - took 3 men to stop him from "killing" him. Anyway, this issue has never been resolved. All the family just say what they think they want the other person to say, they're that type of people, jsut wont speak out. We would be the black sheep of the clan, we have never received an apology from him, if he did - grand - people get pissed, do stupid things etc but he has never come to us to say sorry. When OH told his mother what happend she immediately asked what my OH had done to anatagonise the brother,,,,,,fe*kin ejjits, anyhows....

    There is going to be a family wedding coming up soon and of course we'll all invited. We havent had contact with this person or his family since the event. Im terrified about what might happen. My OH just says we'll go for the church and part of reception and head home but how on earth are we gonna deal with the situation on the day. I think we should try and meet, or for him to meet his brother before hand so that at least things are civil but I know if the brother decides to do something stupid or say anything dergatory to my OH, I dont think my OH would ignore it. I've tried bringing it up with him a few times but he doesnt think we need to do anything. I really dont want to go to this, but there is no way of it as far as I can see.

    Any advice appreciated..thanks


Comments

  • #2
    ABajaninCork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,411 ✭✭✭ABajaninCork


    I think you've answered your own question TBH...

    I would go for the wedding, reception and speeches, and take it from there. First sign of trouble, you up with your family and LEAVE!!

    Does the relative getting married know what happened? Is there a chance they could have a word in the BiL's ear?? Words to the effect - "Behave yourself, this is our day. If you kick off for ANY reason, we'll put you out on your ear. And we wouldn't care where you landed either..!"


  • #3
    Redpunto
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,024 ✭✭✭Redpunto


    The whole family and our neighbours (!!) know what happened. None of the family would stick up for us, we're not one of the favourites!! I guess you're right, first sign of trouble and we're gone. I suppose the BIL wouldnt be drinking too much before the end of the meal so we can scarper then,, thanks!


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