guys and their amazing talents :(

owned

I had birthday yesterday and my BF was out with me and we had a cute evening in restaurant and cinema. That was nice. But today evening he is with a (female) friend from high school who asked him to cook something he can cook very well. Okkk. So I knew I wouldn't meet him again today.. but no message either. I'm always disappointed. Am I the only one to feel like this? Every day I can't see him is for me a pity, a mess. I feel bored and depressed at the same time. And what about him? I don't know if all guys do the same, but I think they have an ability that we don't have as women. To think like "yeah, a day without her, ok.. what's the problem?"
And moreover he spends the evening with a woman. Yeah. I'm 20 and jealous. what a pity

i.need.a.job

im 22 and when i was your age i was the same. im now single...

don't take it too seriously. go out and have fun, don't wait around for any guy. life is for living at the age. if i could go back to 20 id say NO to relationships have fun....

owned

Thanks for it. It's my first BF, and he is older than me. That's maybe why we don't feel always the same. But soon we'll leave for different countries and for six months we won't meet so often, or not at all. That makes me sad really. He is 7 y older than me. He had a few relationships and is more experienced. I'm afraid he goes out with a woman one day and has private relations with her and then doesn't tell me anything or .. tells me it's over.
I have no friends around for the moment. But even if I have friends to go out with, I always hope he comes with us to have fun. If he does not I feel bad or even worse if he laughs and talks more with a female friend than me.
:eek: Being 20 is such a mess

rainbow kirby

Moved from tLL to RI

owned

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Moved from tLL to RI

OK fine.

ztoical

owned wrote: »

I don't know if all guys do the same, but I think they have an ability that we don't have as women. To think like "yeah, a day without her, ok.. what's the problem?"

Eh that's not a guy thing, I'm female and I would have no issue having a day or more away from a boyfriend....not something to get depressed about TBH. Seriously you can't live in each others pocket, I for one would go nuts if a BF wanted to spend every day together. Surely you have your own friends? Do you not have girls nights out/in without the OH?

owned

ztoical wrote: »

Surely you have your own friends? Do you not have girls nights out/in without the OH?

yes I have friends but far from me now. So I can't meet them! I'm maybe too much "in love" or dreaming, I don't know.

ztoical

owned wrote: »

yes I have friends but far from me now. So I can't meet them! I'm maybe too much "in love" or dreaming, I don't know.

Then see this as the chance to make new friends...most of the forums on boards have regular meets ups. Most regions of the country have their own forums so you can find local meet ups or there are forums for a number of cities outside of Ireland. I've shown up to several boards events knowing no one and had a blast. I've moved to new cities in new countries twice and just get involved in something local I'm interested so if not interested in drinking/clubing look for book clubs, knitting groups [not just for little old ladies, the stitch club in london is run by cool folks], cinema etc etc If you've got an active social calendar it can make the time set aside for the OH more meaningful.

owned

Yeah true. But in fact I live very far from Ireland that is to say I can't participate to your meetings But let's go back to the main talk. How have you lived your relationships when you were 20?

HavingCrack

owned wrote: »

Yeah true. But in fact I live very far from Ireland that is to say I can't participate to your meetings But let's go back to the main talk. How have you lived your relationships when you were 20?

Em, why did you look for advice on an Irish site then

owned

HavingCrack wrote: »

Em, why did you look for advice on an Irish site then

It's just to talk together, not to receive the advice of getting new friends

ztoical

owned wrote: »

Yeah true. But in fact I live very far from Ireland that is to say I can't participate to your meetings But let's go back to the main talk. How have you lived your relationships when you were 20?

I don't live in Ireland currently, like I said I've moved to whole new countries twice in the last 8 years and the first time knew no one and the second knew a few people but not that well and I managed to meet people and I'm not a very out going person. Check the living aboard forums and a few other region forums on here, loads of people talking about moving to new places and good ways to meet new people.

When I was 20 I was working a 30 hour week as well as in college full time, boyfriend worked full time so if we saw each other once a week that was doing well.

owned

Ahahaha. Yeah I see. Being a student on holiday is not a common situation. I have actually more time to become lazy and bored.

ztoical

owned wrote: »

Ahahaha. Yeah I see. Being a student on holiday is not a common situation. I have actually more time to become lazy and bored.

so stop being lazy and bored and go out and enjoy yourself then.

owned

HAHAHAHAHA yeah.