What age were you when you realised you were gay?

Kid Curry

Curious to know what the general age is before you realised you were gay?

xxlily87xx

i suppose i was about 15 when i start fancying girls and noticing i was a bit different to my friends as in lack of boyfriends and interest in boys in general ha, and then i had my first gay experience when i was 18 and i came out when i was 19, 4 years ago now, its flew past

rainbow kirby

Had an inkling in the back of my mind at 16, was absolutely certain at 20, came out as bi to friends at 21 and came out to them as gay about a year later. 26 now, don't feel like such a baby dyke any more! :eek:

Dr. Baltar

It was more of a realisation that other people weren't bi to be honest.

Start of puberty I knew I liked guys, repressed it, accepted it at 16 but "hopefully it will go away..." realised it wouldn't at 19 and came out, 20 now, and never been happier!

MultiUmm

I was well aware that I was 'different' in a lot of ways to other kids when I was growing up. Of course I didn't know I was gay, but I just had a feeling I was in some ways different from other boys. (I'd have played with my friends dolls any day over a game of soccer. :P)

I can't really pin point an exact age when I knew for sure I was gay. It was around 10/11 when I started to notice boys more than girls, I just ignored it for a long time, not really understanding why I felt like that. By the time I was nearly 12 I went through the "denial" phase for a long time, that I can't be like this and if I got married when I was older it'd solve all my problems. (Weird thoughts for a 12 year old I guess. ) After a while I learned to accept it wouldn't just 'go away' but I still became very withdrawn and had almost no confidence between 12-14.

By 15 I knew for sure I was gay, but the difference was now I'd come to fully accept it and feel good about myself for the first time in a while. I came out to my family first in July last year and eventually my best friends a few months ago. Feels good to have a lot of the mushy emotional stuff involved with coming out over me by 16. :P

hare05

Started liking guys? Too early to remember.

Realized I liked guys? About 16.

Stopped acting like a super-macho homophobic bigot? 19 :cool:

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Started feeling like something was wrong gender-wise? About the time I was given a Batman and not a Barbie.

Realized I may be transgendered? 14. Same year I gots the interwebz. :P

Stopped thinking of it as a shameful dirty thing? 17. About the same time I found a trans-forum with actual transitioners and no chasers. :mad:

Started transition? Not yet, but I'll be going to my first group next week hopefully, so you never know

fjireland

well as soon as puberty hit... i knew it was guys not girls that do it for me... so around 12 i guess, so i knew at that stage yes i am gay

of course, as others have said, i kinda always knew i was different , more at ease playing with the girls than the boys at school and stuff...


then , from 12 - 18 being gay was something i knew but kept strictly to myself,

college etc. allowed me to be more open and start accepting myself.

Links234

hare05 wrote: »

Started transition? Not yet, but I'll be going to my first group next week hopefully, so you never know

oh my god that's wonderful! I really hope you get on well,

Nevyn

I was 9, she was the first person I ever got a crush on and wanted to kiss.
It was 6 years later before I figured out I like boys as well.

Chuchoter

First 'crush' on a girl was 12, thought something was a bit off at 14 and then I had this big OMG moment at 16 when it all became clear :P

baby and crumble

I was full sure I was straight until 5th year, so around 16. A few things happened that year- new geography teacher arrived in school that i vehemently HATED, no idea why. Then one day in class (i think it was a lesson on glacial erosion :cool:) i suddenly copped- holy crap, I fancy her!

Same year I saw 'The Investigator' with Helen Baxendale, 'Heavenly Creatures' with Kate Winslet and Melanie Linsky and a lot of 'Ellen' on rerun. Everything started coming together, so to speak, until I made peace with myself that summer that I liked the ladies. Had to get through one year of boarding school before I could tell any mates because I didn't want to risk it being awkward in the dorm, and the rest, shall we say, is history!

Aard

This thread should be stickied; it comes up quite frequently.


OT: 11-13.

elekid

Around 13/14 - basically puberty, when everyone starts noticing who they are attracted to!

plein de force

i remember when i was around 10/11 i saw this guy when i was away on holidays at the beach and i felt something i never had before about anyone which i later realised was physical attraction

over the next few years as i grew a bit more mature i noticed boys and not girls, i didn't accept or realise it until i was 15, then last year i came out to everyone

deirdre_dub

First memory of wanting to cross-dress - 9

First actual cross-dress (I had to leave home first!) - early 20s?

First time socialising as female - 39

First "light bulb" moment when I realised that, since the year dot, my experience of gender has never been the "norm" - 39

Start of HRT - 40

deirdre_dub

deirdre_dub wrote: »

First memory...

Woops - this thread was actually about sexual orientation.

First relationship - hasn't happened yet

First time realising that my female self is actually heterosexual, and not lesbian (as I expected I would be) - 40

Though, in fairness, I'm now beginning to think I'm bi.

Sir Ophiuchus

In my experience, no-one's sexuality is like a lightbulb. It's just that one day you look back, see everything you've experienced and felt up to now, and recontextualise it in a new pattern that makes more sense.

That being said, I started to figure out I might be gay when I was 17. Actually accepted and internalised it and came out at 19. Which isn't to say I mightn't have realised it before that if I'd thought in those terms. It's not like anything changed externally.

lionchild

think i was a late bloomer (cringe), actually liked girls throughout the teens and then things began to change once i hit my 20s, gradually realised that i was gay and was absolutely certain about 22/23