Friend falling for bad guy - player

LegacyUser

OK, so I'll try to make this short and sweet. I'm in college and in the past 4 months I have got to know one guy from a different course to me as we had to work in the same lab on different projects. It's just me and him in the lab and we get on very well. I like him as a friend and I do have a fiance that I love. However, this guy i am sharing the lab with is definitely an attractive guy and i mean that pretty much every girl is going to find him attractive due to his looks and his attitude. don't get me wrong, i would never go there because im in a great relationship but i see how he could be attractive.

the thing is, he is a total player. even in his job he has sex with girls in the toilets every weekend. he is constantly going on dates and constantly meeting new girls. he even has told me stories about how me met some women on the street. he is a total player, no question. he is very open about this though and its pretty obvious to tell it from him. he told me he has about 12 girlfriends so you get the idea. i even saw him get a girls number from a different lab. like i said, he is an attractive guy.

now i met up with him in a nightclub 2 weeks ago. he was there with friends and I was and we met up. he got talking to my friend and they totally hit it off. he got her number and she has been infatuated with him ever since. they text regularly but haven't met up yet. my friend really likes him and is getting her hopes up. i've told her all about him but this just seems to make her more attracted.

basically i know she is going to get burned. she is not going to get what she wants from him - a relationship. i've been thinking about asking him not to follow through and meet up with her. im sure he would do it, as he really values me as a friend and is not exactly going thought a drought with regards to his sex life. i think this is the best option, plus my friend would never know and would be saved from getting emotionally attached to someone who won't be there for her the way she wants...

a part of me thinks i would be wrong to interfere though!

What should I do!!?

LegacyUser

That part of you is right. Stay out of it. You've told her about him, now stand back. You've no right to run their lives.

Wagon

friend998 wrote: »

What should I do!!?

Nothing. You pretty much did all you can, warned her what he is like and stuff. I'm guessing she is old enough to know now that blokes like that aren't exactly nice, but if she wants to ignore all those signs and thinks she can change him, because that's the reason women normally go for the dicks bad boys, that's her problem.

Best you can do is be at the other end of the phone for the big bitching session about men when it all goes to the pot

petethebrick

I think you should keep your nose out - you told your friend what he was like, thats your duty over. Now let her get the ride and dont be jealous just because you cant!

dudara

You seem to want to spend an awful lot of time reassuring us that you aren't interested in him. Is this flavouring your attitude to him and your friend?

Look, there's not much you can do besides what you have done. They are grown-ups and you need to leave it alone.

Eve_Dublin

We´ve all fallen for a bad guy/girl at some stage....it´s your friend´s mistake to make and learn from. Just be there for her if/when it goes tits up.

Pixie 98

BEST THING TO DO IS Stay out of it.. Just be there for your friend if it goes pear shaped!

HavingCrack

You've given your friend a warning, leave her to it. She's a grown up and can whatever decisions she wants. I wouldn't give her the time of day if she comes whinging to you about how awful he is afterwards though.

LegacyUser

Hot Boy
OP fancies Hot Boy
OP stuck in relationship
Hot Boy fancies OP's friend
OP's friend fancies Hot Boy
OP jealous of friend, wants Hot Boy for herself
OP should stay out of it
Simples

jurgenscarl

It's none of your business.
It's your friends fault if she thinks she can have relationship with this guy.
This guy can have any woman he wants.
He could have you too any time he wants.
All he has to do is flick a switch.
Sooner or later he will.