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  • 16-07-2010 7:15am
    #1
    alpha2010
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    okay where do I start, been with my bf 2 years and things haven't always been so good until the last few months, were both 19 and we always said we would be together forever as you do, and I believed it until recently, I have start liking a guy and he said he likes me too but I don't know what to do. My bf is amazing and I can't break up with me because tbh this guy isn't from Ireland so I will never get with him but its the idea that I'm liking someone else thats worrying me

    maybe its a crush but I'm getting the knot in my stomach whenever we talk and I miss that feeling. I have told my bf that I like this guy and he believes nothing will come from it

    he actually doesn't seem bothered and that worries me he said nothing will come of it because this guy lives in London but shouldn't he care that I'm liking someone else even if nothing will ever come of it. I have been on here many times about how crap my relationship has been but for once its actually going good but maybe its because my bf now gets his time alone because im online chatting to this guy, we didn't meet on an internet dating site and were not looking for anyone we just came across one another because I play ps3 with him, I know its seems sad but my bf funny enough got me into playing the ps3 and I met this guy while playing online and we had a laugh and then we start chatting on msn. I only play at night but me and this guy would chat on the mic and play ps3 for about 4 hours maybe more and then we talk on msn for another 4 hours every night. im spending more time with this guy than my bf

    my bf has been really busy lately putting in 50 hours a week so he can pay for college and i feel guilty because im chatting to this guy. Your prob gonna say stop talking to him but I cant

    I dont know what advice I'm looking for here but Im at my wits end. Im on my holidays from college and the crap irish weather keeps me in most nights and my bf does be working so i like playing online. at first the guy talked to me mainly because i was a girl and girls dont ever play ps3 but then we really start getting to know one another

    I'm currently staying in my bfs house and hoping to move out for college in September...

    Anyways please someone just give me some advice

    if you need me to answer more questions ill be around because I cant sleep over this :(


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  • #2
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    OP

    just because you are involved with someone does not mean you immediately become a nun and stop being attracted to other people, no matter how long you are with them.

    Right now - this bloke is filling a gap for you. Your bf is off working and you may be feeling lonely and not getting as much attention as you used to. I think it is great you spoke to your OH about this - this was his prompt to try harder when you are together - but you know, if you want this relationship to work you have to try harder too...

    You should also do what you can NOT to play with fire... Right now you have not met up - but London is only 40 min away by air. You know what you should do here - talk some more to your BF and cut contact with the other bloke. If you really can't do this - then yes you really should be questioning WHY you are with your boyfriend right now...

    The more you go down that route the more messed up your current relationship will be and it is only a matter of time before you cross that line. Remember there is not just physical cheating - but emotional too...

    It all depends on what and who you want. If your BF is the one - then work on that relationship. If you are unsure then end it - meet some other people and find out who and what you want.


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