Debs predicament

Boardzee

I'll keep it short. I've been in a relationship with this girls for the last two-and-a-half years. Before the Leaving Cert started (Easter), I suggested we should break up. She was upset by this and insisted though that we remain together, and stay on a closed 'break'. I agreed because I didn't want to upset her going into the LC.

Now all of it is over, I'd really like to move on become single again. The problem with that is it leaves me in an awful predicament for the Debs. All of my female friends are her best friends(due to her jealous nature), and having gone to an all-lads school, the choice is scarce. I've already 'invited' her to my debs last summer, but now I'm really unsure of what to do, any advice? Just stay put with her for the summer? Or ask someone else? I've got one in mind, she's a looker, but I don't know her incredibly well as she lives some distance away.
Any advice?

BLACKEN

Bring a male friend and have the time of your life! Trust me mine worked out kick ass that way! :L

PopUp

Are you still on "a closed break"? You need to break up with her properly and officially first before you tackle the debs question.

Asking some other "looker" while you are still technically going out with her is not on. Finish it properly, and you're a free agent!

karaokeman

Did you ask her "would you like to come to my debs" this summer or last?

If it was "last summer" that would mean you asked a year in advance. I've learned myself that a lot can change in that length of time.

Toots

I'd be inclined not to bring her just so you have someone to go with, it's stringing her along and will only hurt her more in the long run.

Pembily

Once ye are broken up GET A NEW GIRL!!! But not a total randomer - does a friend have girlfriends??

My (girl) friend brought me and she kinda regrets not bringing a guy now!!! If you don't want to bring your ex don't and as she is jealous she may not be happy with you enjoying your Debs (you have to enjoy it - belive me I still remember mine)!!!!

jurgenscarl

Break up with her properly and find yourself another girl if that's what you want.
A 'break' is simply another word to describe putting things on hold unresolved.
It is no solution.
You are either on the same page with someone for good or bad or else you are both fooling yourselves.
Talk to her, take her to one side without her friends interfering and sort this out for once and for all.
Meet her in the afternoon just the two of you for a chat over a coffee and a slice of cream cake or go for a walk in the park throwing crumbs at the pigeons etc etc.
Basically somewhere out of the way where you can both have it out and sort it.
Leaving things hanging is immature.

Boardzee

Right, thanks for all the advice, everyone. We are still on the break, but I'll get in contact with her over the weekend and sort things out. I agree with the above post that leaving things hanging is immature, but I'm trying to weight out possible outcomes here. I guess I'll leave the Debs question out of it until later. People usually say Leaving Cert results night is the latest?