Am I too old for him...?

LegacyUser

Hi just met this very nice guy who is 22 yrs old I am 29 yrs old
is this just too much of an age gap?

I would never usually go for guys younger then me, we just clicked and
now I am worried If I did go out with him would the age gap be a problem
anybody else in same boat? I know this sounds bad but I nearly feel embarressed
that he so much younger then me..

Thank you for reading!

Choc Affair

nooo wwaaaaayyyy!!!!
you go girl and you enjoy!!!!!!:D

Ronin247

I remember hearing one time that the rule of thumb ( Which is only a guide as opposed to an actual rule) is "half your age plus seven".
He is in your compatability age group so go for it.

Silverfish

xyml wrote: »

Hi just met this very nice guy who is 22 yrs old I am 29 yrs old
is this just too much of an age gap?

I would never usually go for guys younger then me, we just clicked and
now I am worried If I did go out with him would the age gap be a problem
anybody else in same boat? I know this sounds bad but I nearly feel embarressed
that he so much younger then me..

Thank you for reading!

Yes and no.

The age gap itself would be no issue. However, where you both are in life and what you both want out of it may be an issue.

Once you're both on the same page, then age in this instance doesn't really matter.

jurgenscarl

As long as you are both reading off the same page age should make no difference whatsoever unless you want to turn it into a problem.

HavingCrack

It depends on what you both want from your relationship. If one of you is looking to 'settle down' while the other is a party animal clearly there could be problems. But this isn't specifcally an age issue so as long as you're both on the same wavelength it should be fine.

Dudess

Ronin247 wrote: »

I remember hearing one time that the rule of thumb is "half your age plus seven".
He is in your compatability age group so go for it.

No disrespect to you as you didn't make up that rule, but it's a load of nonsense. Nobody should ever make choices like this based on some "rule".

OP, go for it - it doesn't matter about the age gap if things are great between you and your respective stages in life don't cause issues.

LegacyUser

definetly go for it if it feels right!! god its hard enough find someone these days!! some 22 year olds i know are a lot maturer then 29 year old males i know!

lolo62

Maturity has nothing to do with age...we are complicated beings with many facets to who we are and he might compliment you perfectly....

if you are worried about being judged then just don't tell anyone how old he is, if you make a big deal about it to people you'll only end up scanning them for dissaproval....

i can totally relate to how you feel and if i was in your situation i wouldn't deny myself based on that..

it's for you to find out if the age gap is going to be a problem between the two of you as individuals!

LegacyUser

I'm in the same situation - just go for it! What's the worst that could happen?

Denimgirl

I personally don't think it would work long term, he is only 22 and you are at different stages of your life, you probably want kids and settle down in the next couple of years whilst he still will be on the night clubbling stage, My opinion would be if you want a fling go for it, but long term I think you would be wasting your time with a young lad in his early 20's.

Overheal

Denimgirl wrote: »

I personally don't think it would work long term, he is only 22 and you are at different stages of your life, you probably want kids and settle down in the next couple of years whilst he still will be on the night clubbling stage, My opinion would be if you want a fling go for it, but long term I think you would be wasting your time with a young lad in his early 20's.

That's subjective to the young lad. And age is arbitrary. Theres no rule of thumb to say a 20-something wont be looking to settle down or be inclined to marry have kids and own a house. People the same age as me in the 22-23 bracket I have seen get hitched buy houses and start to raise critters on the back of steady workflow. Furthermore, theres no rulebook that ever predicted men in their late 40s would be playing World of Warcraft in teams/groups alongside teenagers, but there you go.

LegacyUser

Thanks guys great to get some advice and it is all very positive

I think I will just go for it chances don't come around too often especially good
men!

Many thanks

whatsherface

You may be in for a bit of slagging Op but if you both like each other
age shouldn't matter good luck

Gone Drinking

To answer your question, no, you're not too old for him.

But i bet it won't work because at 22 and 29, two lives are going totally different directions usually.

I could be wrong of course.

LegacyUser

hey i'm a bloke and my gf is 7years older than me and we met when i was 20 an been together for years now ,if you get on with each other and both are clued in why not!
some of her friends gave her a bit of stick but as with live you find out who your friends really are !

Hank_Jones

I wouldn't be inclined to listen to the negative comments here.
Personally I don't think that age gaps make much of a difference.
7 years isn't really that much when you think about it.

Bella_purple

if you feel it right, go for it, of course! missing opportunities because of fear don't seem a good approach onto things, does it?

LegacyUser

No you shouldn't go out with him because it doesn't conform to a societal norm.

Fcuking NONSENSE......

I love the way people come on here to check if they are "normal"

Many people have such a strong desire to conform to so called "norms"

OP my advice would be to listen to those positive posts on here that recommen you go for it if it feels right for you!!

There is no such thing as normal on this earth.

You are a human being. This is your life. Live it. Make your own decisions.

Good luck OP