I need out

LegacyUser

I have been in a relationship for the last four years...

It's been good, but for the last year I have been suffering from some big stresses all caused by her. I have been to Doctors, Psychiatrists and everything to try and cope with the stress's she puts on me and my body...I have gained a serious ammount of weight over the last year mainly due to this stress.

I told her that I needed some time to myself about 3 months ago...according to her that means I dont Lover her or that I'm ashamed of her...

Up until two weeks ago things were going fine with me...no stress and I was doing stuff on my own, all happy...then she came back on the scene for more then 2 days a week and last night she was in fine form, Telling me all the faults with me, telling me that I hate her, telling me that she hates me etc...

She's completely ruining my life... I cant do anything without the Guantanamo Bay interrogation after it...

I have broken up with her on four different occasions only to take her back cause she cries and wont get out of my car...she stays there until I take her back..crying...it's driving me ****ing mental, she is so high strung...and is ****ing me over. She took money off me a year ago and is refusing to pay it back...

FFS.

trebor28

sounds more like a leach to me.

have no experience of this thank god.

id hate to be in your situation.
only thing i can say is cut all ties as much as possible, and dont make any contact.
i would say forget about the money and just try and get rid, any contact and she will only worm her way back in.

after that i dont know.

cheesey1

felcher wrote: »

Up until two weeks ago things were going fine with me...no stress and I was doing stuff on my own, all happy...then she came back on the scene for more then 2 days a week and last night she was in fine form, Telling me all the faults with me, telling me that I hate her, telling me that she hates me etc...
I have broken up with her on four different occasions only to take her back cause she cries and wont get out of my car...she stays there until I take her back..crying...it's driving me ****ing mental, she is so high strung...and is ****ing me over. She took money off me a year ago and is refusing to pay it back...

FFS.

Sorry to sound harsh but you need to get her out of your life and I think she might need to get some professional help. Not getting out of your car, telling you she hates you and you hate here etc. is not good for any one and unfortunately you are going to have to be tough and just break all contact with her and I know its not easy but its for your own sake. Sorry if this comes across as mean.

AngryBadger

felcher wrote: »

I told her that I needed some time to myself about 3 months ago...according to her that means I dont Lover her or that I'm ashamed of her...

OP this is nothing short of emotional blackmail.

The only way to deal with people like this is not to give them an inch, if she starts throwing crap like this at you the only response that will work is to say "yes that's exactly what I think, now goodbye". Otherwise you're engaging her on her own level and you will never win that fight.

You need to show her the door and be resolute in your decision, it sounds like she knows all the right buttons to push and does so every time you work up the courage to get rid of her.

Find ways to avoid contact with her, in situations like this there's no other way to get rid of unwanted attention.

AnonoBoy

Break up with her.

If she cries, she cries.

You're only responsible for your own happiness, not hers.


Sorry to be harsh but you need to be tough, don't take her back. She'll get over it, honestly - everybody gets dumped, she'll learn to move on and she'll actually be happier too.

Choc Affair

break up and cut all ties!!!
if she throws a hissy fit.... ignore!
you have to get out of that relationship.
get rid of her number.. email.. facebook etc and have fresh start with a fresh head!!:D

jurgenscarl

This can all end when you stand up for yourself and show her the door.
Nobody can do it except you.
Tell her it's over, tell her to get out of your life and stick to your guns.
If she tries to come back and play the emotional blackmail game don't give in no matter how much she cries.
She's bad news and you don't need that any more.

Cheap Thrills!

She is not your responsibility. You can't go out with someone out of fear/pity.

She may cry, scream, threaten suicide but you have to be hard. She's ruining your life, you only get one so finish with her but not in the car.

Do it somewhere neutral where you can walk or drive away afterwards. Explain there will be no contact and you will not give into any emotional blackmail or histrionics.

BLACKEN

felcher wrote: »

I have been in a relationship for the last four years...

It's been good, but for the last year I have been suffering from some big stresses all caused by her. I have been to Doctors, Psychiatrists and everything to try and cope with the stress's she puts on me and my body...I have gained a serious ammount of weight over the last year mainly due to this stress.

I told her that I needed some time to myself about 3 months ago...according to her that means I dont Lover her or that I'm ashamed of her...

Up until two weeks ago things were going fine with me...no stress and I was doing stuff on my own, all happy...then she came back on the scene for more then 2 days a week and last night she was in fine form, Telling me all the faults with me, telling me that I hate her, telling me that she hates me etc...

She's completely ruining my life... I cant do anything without the Guantanamo Bay interrogation after it...

I have broken up with her on four different occasions only to take her back cause she cries and wont get out of my car...she stays there until I take her back..crying...it's driving me ****ing mental, she is so high strung...and is ****ing me over. She took money off me a year ago and is refusing to pay it back...

FFS.

Look its not hard to see that she clearly is not good for you!

So don't take this the wrong way or anything but im going to be blunt!

DUMP HER ASS!!!

Elmer Blooker

"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"

astra2000

for your own sake get out now its not good for either of you cut all ties and be done. picture what it will be like if you get back with her and she gets pregnant if its hard now how much more so would it get then. It is going to be hard when she cries but stand firm eventually she will realise you are serious it will probably take time get back to where you were a few weeks ago and enjoy life again thats what its for