is this common?

LegacyUser

Hi all,

well its nothing new, another issue of the ex, oh what a surprise!

my situation is actually out of curiosity at this point and your point of view would be greatly appreciated.

Ex and I broke up 2 years ago almost, did like everyone does, tried to stay friends, as if;-) and of course finally ended up with absolutely no contact.

However, while we were together we had an amazing out of this world chemistry and I do know how rare that is but oh well, it passes...but then we had the odd contact, sometimes him, sometimes me (him a lot more than me), we are civil, or at least I am as I have still respect for him but the idea of us ever getting back together is long long long gone away I don't mind chatting to him here and there, it does not affect me. Then one day, he dropped "I have a girlfriend I love"...a bit taken aback at first but honestly, didn't phased me afterwards.all good!

That is where it gets a bit disturbing or strange should I say, few weeks ago he called me, I assumed a bit drunk although it was 6am so I assumed he had to have sober up a little by that time of the night/morning, after a small chit chat he tried the road of "sexy chat" if you know what I mean...I was very surprised but suddenly he said he was looking at my "photos" ..guess I should mentioned those were adult photos although my face was not on it so no fear of that going anywhere embarrassing, I asked why he still had them and he simply said he looks at them sometimes when he "needs" to....NOW my question is this, is that normal for a guy to keep pics of his ex for ...some solo business should I say??

He has a girlfriend now and my point is, if I had a boyfriend now of course I wouldn't mind him having some "help" from porn sites/movies BUT from looking at an ex I know he was crazy about??? I would hate that!

Now I don't have a boyfriend now so imp not in that situation but in the future in that a common thing for guys? cause I know I would be personally upset if I was his girlfriend

Thanks for any opinions.

Fiend-Foe

Don't think anybody would be happy with their OH having intimate pictures of an ex, but I'm sure a lot of guys would keep them hidden away somewhere. Especially if they are digital pics hidden away on his computer. Less chance of getting caught. It is a bit weird and in his position I would have got rid of them and have pictures of my new GF. Maybe she isn't cool with him taking intimate pics of her and that's why he still has them. There's very little chance that she would be ok with him having the pictures and it's quite creepy that he told you he was looking at them. That would freak me out a bit!

LegacyUser

yes, it is creepy alright, have to admit flaterring of course that too I won't deny that but disrespectful in many ways to the new girl. I guess I really didn't see the point in telling me about it too. Woman in general are less as visual as men are, ense why men watch porns and pictures of naked girls (or dressed whatever rocks your boat) but yes, an ex I think is jsut not healthy for the current relationship.

No my problem of course, again, I was curious as I might wonder about that now with my next boyfriend! ;-)