Sister

LegacyUser

OK this is about my sister who's 15 - but doesn't really act it!

I blame my parents for completely mollycoddling her - she's so spoilt it's ridiculous. She demands stuff - everything from her breakfast to a cup of tea being made for her. It's ALWAYS done for her - she can barely make a cup of tea and can't do anything for herself- and if she's told to wait a few minutes, she proceeds to scream and curse (like REALLY BAD - I'm talking my parents bring called retards, as well as the C word).

The really weird thing is, she is completely opposite in school, or when there's anyone else around. Teachers have told my parents she is very introverted and doesn't speak up enough. Also, since starting secondary school 2 years ago, she has NEVER brought any friends around or she has never gone to any of her friends houses. I think she has friends as I see her talking to them on FB/Bebo...I just find it strange, especially now it's the summer, all she does is get up everyday, sit in her pyjamas for a few hours, watch TV, and surf the net. It can't be good being cooped up all day like that, not to mention boring! I have asked her why doesn't she invite a friend over or go to one of her friends places, but she always says she will one of the days....but never does..

She's a street angel, house devil...any ideas on how to deal with it? I was worried maybe she was being bullied in school but she's adamant she's not....but it's really like she's got 2 personalities!!

Miss Fluff

She sounds like she has severe behavioural problems. What have your parents said about it? Are they worried about her? Why isn't she working for the summer?

alpha2010

okay I'm kinda in the same situation to some extent. My 14 year old sister demands a lot but tbh I blame my Mam because to keep the peace she will give her what she wants. Like she is a little angel in school, which is very good because she is getting straight A's and is well liked by her friends but when it comes to being at home, she is the devil. But if your getting spoiled like that and no one is doing anything about it, then why would she stop. Like one day she was horrible to my Mam, she asked my sister to mind our little brother while my Mam went shopping and she screamed 'no im not doing it, I hate him' and then she finally gave in, only because she bribed my Mam, she said she would mind my brother if my Mam picked her up a top

I have tried talking to my Mam about it and I have given out to my sister for doing it but My Mam doesn't want any hassle so she tells me to just leave it alone and so I have

I'm not proud to say this but I was kinda the same, so I too feel responsible because she might have seen me being spoiled and getting my own way majority of the time, so she thought she could do the same

I grew out of it, and began to understand what I was doing, maybe your sister will do the same, right now she is a stroppy teenager and god we have all been there so hopefully she will have grown up by then

as for the friends thing, she might like her own company if she has friends in school, then I presume she isn't being bullied. My sister wakes up at 2 in the day, sits around doing f all, just on bebo or facebook but she does go out to her friends but not that much, they all seem to sit at home and just facebook each other.

kids have totally changed seriously, they all live beside each other but they rather msn one another than actually going outside haha it amazes me :P

Beruthiel

lilsisprob wrote: »

It's ALWAYS done for her

Well there's your answer.
You reap what you sow if you do not teach your child how to behave and fend for themselves.

LegacyUser

@ Miss Fluff, my parents don't seem to think that it's just plain wrong how much they molly coddle her. They threaten to take net away, etc, but that just makes her worse and she screams and swears til they just give in and give it back to her.
She's not working - are ya mad? as IF... my parents would also laugh if it was suggested...
the reason my mam gives for doing everything for her is that she is quite clumsy and has bad enough hand co-ordination...something she puts down to the fact that she was 3 months premature. I don't know tho, I think if she was actually taught how to do stuff, instead of everything being done she would learn.

@ alpha2010, actually I was a bit like this as well, but nowhere near the extent of my sister. I was an only child til I was 11, then my sis came along, and I kind of started having to fend for myself!

I dunno, it just makes me kinda sad for her...I see other kids out playing/going shopping/days out with their friends...and think why wouldn't she want that?

LegacyUser

Beruthiel wrote: »

Well there's your answer.
You reap what you sow if you do not teach your child how to behave and fend for themselves.

I know! But I'm ALWAYS ALWAYS giving out to my parents about it...and they just laugh...how do I make them SEE SENSE?! It's soo infuriating...

Denerick

Hmm... A 15 year old girl with behavioural issues! Good God!

She's probably desperately unhappy... Like a quite a lot of 15 year old girls and tends to take it out on her family. It doesn't help when she's spoilt and feels entitled to that way of life.

God help her when she leaves home if she doesn't even know how to make a cup of tea.

jessiejam

Teenage girls..... don't you just love them:rolleyes:

You grew out of it, I'm sure she will too
Once there is no medical reasons behind her behaviour, she will grow out of it.

Ask your parents what you were like when you were her age, bet you weren't that different.