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Confused about a colleague

  • 11-07-2010 3:23pm
    #1
    goldy locks
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22 ✭


    Has anyone else gotten close to a guy, fallen for them and lost them?? Guys any advice on why a guys flirts but doesn't act on it?

    I've been working with a guy for the last year and a half, who is a little bit younger than me. about a yea ago, i started to develop feelings for him, by this stage we were good friends, and he was becoming very complimentary, and affectionate. he would comment on my shoes perfume hair etc.

    a couple of months ago communication dwindled, but his affection and flirting was stepped up. ( lots of touching, winking and compliments) so i told him, by text that i liked him. but in doing so i also said i understood that the feeling may not be mutual, and i didn't want to make things awkward between us in work.

    He didn't respond, but became ultra affectionate after this. but he did strike a conversation with me telling me he didn't know if he wanted a girlfriend, and with in 10 minutes told me he enjoyed spending time with me and i was good company??? this compliment i received on a number of occasions until one day when he stopped. or i though he stopped, but in fact he just toned his behavior down.

    Now he wont ever come an talk to me any more, he's stopped having lunch with me and our other colleague, wont come for coffee with us, he has politely told me he doesn't like texting or chatting on facebook. But other colleagues make reference to him using these methods of communication with him.

    My team is all male except for me and our receptionists, so i can't be seen to flirt, I have asked him what i've done and he said i haven't done any thing and its nothing personal. He is always very polite and courteous, but has taken to telling me he's busy as and when i do go and say hi

    I 'm really lost as to what i have done. I have tried to distance my self but that makes things worse for all. I miss my friend more than anything. and its not the first time i've lost a guy friend in the same way, but this some haw feels worse than before :-(

    any advise on how to approach him and clear the air??


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