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Headaches caused by girlfriend.

  • 08-07-2010 12:53pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I have been getting headaches for months now. I got ever test imaginable and they all showed up normal.
    I broke up with my girlfriend for a week and the headaches were gone for that period of time.

    We got back together 2 days ago and the headaches are back. we talked for 5 hours straight and we are both working on issues but I am having trouble dealing with the headaches. I don't know if they are related to stress but they seem to be related to her in some way.

    Any advise would be really appreciated.


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  • #2
    shebango
    Closed Accounts Posts: 118 ✭✭shebango


    Headaches confuse me wrote: »
    Hi,

    I have been getting headaches for months now. I got ever test imaginable and they all showed up normal.
    I broke up with my girlfriend for a week and the headaches were gone for that period of time.

    We got back together 2 days ago and the headaches are back. we talked for 5 hours straight and we are both working on issues but I am having trouble dealing with the headaches. I don't know if they are related to stress but they seem to be related to her in some way.

    Any advise would be really appreciated.

    Well you're gonna have to give us more detail here, OP. Do you guys argue a lot? Are you in love with her? How is your relationship generally.


  • #3
    carmel27
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 170 ✭✭carmel27


    Headaches confuse me wrote: »
    Hi,

    I have been getting headaches for months now. I got ever test imaginable and they all showed up normal.
    I broke up with my girlfriend for a week and the headaches were gone for that period of time.

    We got back together 2 days ago and the headaches are back. we talked for 5 hours straight and we are both working on issues but I am having trouble dealing with the headaches. I don't know if they are related to stress but they seem to be related to her in some way.

    Any advise would be really appreciated.

    Hey OP,
    You havent given us much info to go on here, so I could be completely off the mark, so if I am, put me straight.

    Sounds like you're stressed out when you're with her. You dont say that you have had lots of rows etc, but you said ye split for a week and lets face it, you dont just break up if you're happy and all is going well. So obviously, theres some sort of tension there, which will cause stress and may be, in turn, causing the headaches. Im no doctor though....

    The fact the your headaches went when you were apart from her and returned when you two got back together speaks volumes though. You two obviously have issues you need to work through or else call it a day.

    After all, if something makes you ill, you take something to cure it. However, if the medicine doesnt work, then what made you ill in the first place is best avoided.

    Good Luck


  • #4
    AvaKinder
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 271 ✭✭AvaKinder


    Does your gf wear a particular brand of perfume/deodorant all the time? Could be a reaction to that.


  • #5
    dublingal80
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,540 ✭✭✭dublingal80


    it sounds like you are either allergic to something you gf is wearing, or its all stress related and the stress built up which gave you a headache, and then while you had broken up, it was all gone and now you are back together its back

    are you happy with her, or are there issues that are worrying you that could be causing the headaches to come back


  • #6
    randy79
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1 ✭randy79


    Unless your girlfriend is a terrible girlfriend or you don't love her (which probably isn't the case since you got back together with her) the honest truth is that these headaches ultimately have something to do with you, or at least more with you than with her. If you do love her and don't want to lose her (because in my experience girl's pick up on this sort of thing quick and run away even quicker if they know you're wishy-washy) then you have to do some hard work on yourself and try to find some sort of balance. By balance I mean try to figure out what was different when you were broken up and try to incorporate some of that into your life while being with her. This is very general...You have to give us more info on your relationship and your response to commitment. How important is she to you? Is she demanding? Do you get stressed often? Do you get bored of girls easily? The most important thing is how special is she and how special is she to you? Don't waste someone special! I speak from experience having lost the woman of my life...she was my best friend, partner and love and I lost her because of something like this. She was a brilliant capable beautiful woman and moved on. She completely disappeared from my life. I gave up and didn't fight for her or me and I'm still grappling with the same issues and haven't had a successful committed relationship since. I haven't loved anyone else since. I miss her and regret it every day.


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