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Colleage undermining me

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  • 07-07-2010 11:14pm
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    LegacyUser
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    I'm 15 years younger than my colleague, we both do the exact same job, but he has a share in the company, which I don't.
    Occasionally I might refer to him for advice/help with a tricky situation, as I figure his extra years of experience would be good in approaching something from a different angle, I reason somethings you cannot learn from a textbook& it's no harm to bounce ideas& continue to learn throughout your working life. A proportion of my wage goes towards this support.
    Today he made a comment, in public, basically saying he felt he was babysitting me.
    Now, the last time I asked for any help was~5 weeks ago, when I asked if he could see HIS client, as I didn't have the time& the client was assigned to me by mistake.
    He helped source a file for me today- this is part of his job description (not mine though) & not an "extra" thing I asked for help with.
    Long story short, I feel undermined. I'm in my late 20's& I know that this person would never address my other colleages (male, 30's-50's) in such a way. Or if he did, he'd be put in his place. I don't want to rock the boat, but I don't want to be a pushover either.
    Advice gratefully received, apols for the long rant....


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    Neyite
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    oldheadyoungshoulders wrote: »
    A proportion of my wage goes towards this support.
    Today he made a comment, in public, basically saying he felt he was babysitting me.

    this person would never address my other colleages (male, 30's-50's) in such a way. Or if he did, he'd be put in his place.

    Firstly, i dont really understand what you mean when you say that a proportion of your wages goes towards this support - could you clarify that?

    secondly - did you put him in his place regarding the comment? it sounds like you are in a primarily male environment, so consider how one of those guys would reply to it and and pick him up on it. depending on the culture of the company, it really depends on whether you can slag him off back, take him aside quietly and have a word, or go to HR. personally i would slag back, but its up to you.
    oldheadyoungshoulders wrote: »
    Occasionally I might refer to him for advice/help with a tricky situation, as I figure his extra years of experience would be good in approaching something from a different angle, I reason somethings you cannot learn from a textbook& it's no harm to bounce ideas& continue to learn throughout your working life.

    i agree with this, however it seems that he considers it that you are totally without direction. i had this in a previous job so i approached it like "i have more or less already made up my mind about the task, but two heads are better than one etc, what do you think about this scenario... then when he responds, just say, yeah, thats what i was thinking i would do as well."


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