meeting someone for NSA

LegacyUser

I've been single for a long time and recently on a dating website, I was chatting with a guy who suggested meeting up for NSA sex. I've never done this before but am tempted to go for it. Mainly I am looking for advice on safety but any general advice would be good too (I want to make sure I have thought it through instead of just acting on hormones!) I am female btw.

Real Clare Man

If ye are getting a hotel room then arrange to meet him in the bar...make it clear beforehand that if either of you feels uncomfortable with the situation then ye can call it quits (this also covers you if you don't find him attractive). A hotel is public enough for you to be safe and if ye hit it off the room is nearby....relax and enjoy.

As above, meet publically, make sure someone knows where you are (even if not why) or leave information somewhere as to where you are that will be found easily by anyone looking for you.

Most of all work out what will make you feel safe, secure, and comfortable and do not compromise on ANY of it no matter what the guy says. There is plenty of willing men out there, if he does not like your conditions he can lump it.

Miss Fluff

I don't know OP, call me old-fashioned but if a guy on a site is suggesting NSA sex I'd be wary. Would you not prefer to go on a "date" with a guy and if you find each other hot and are physically attracted to one another then by all means end up in the sack that evening etc. But meeting just for sex? You've not met this guy, you don't even know if you're attracted to him.

I'm under no illusions that people are on "dating" websites just to get the leg-over and that's fine, but I think agreeing to meet on those terms only puts an awful lot of pressure on you as well as being potentially dangerous. What happens? Meet in a hotel, have a drink, go upstairs? What if he is to turn nasty? What if he has c0ck-rot? What if you end up in a dodgy situation.

I know that could happen on a "date" but I just think with a date you do have some time to make up your mind about the other person and there are no expectations.

I do also think that a lot of guys looking for no-strings sex because they can't indulge anything but, i.e. they are married or living with someone, hence not willing or able to start dating.

Just be careful OP. If you are looking for sex that's totally cool but I think there are safer ways to go about it.

seenitall

Agreed with every single word of Miss Fluff's post. Read and re-read that post, OP, and try and figure out exactly what you will be getting out of this, because your post is not at all clear on your motivations, and that's a bit worrying, tbh.

To elaborate further, I think you should be really really clear in your head why you are going for NSA sex with a stranger off a dating website. Because I am presuming that you logged on the website in order to find a date or a relationship, not only sex. What made you go: "Oh ok, I'll just have sex with this guy instead"? If it is only hormones, IMO that is a bad reason, as you can sort yourself out really. If you have started thinking, "Oh, I might as well, nothing else is happening" - also a bad reason IMO. It reeks of someone who feels that they don't have many options open to them, which is called desperation and is very unhealthy for you. It would be an indication that you will be more than liable to get your feelings involved where there is no space for any, really.

All I am saying is, make sure you really want this experience for yourself. There is nothing wrong with NSA, as long as you know what you are getting into and why. If you don't, there is a very high probability that you will come out the other side of the experience feeling "dirty" and used.

Whatever you decide, the best of luck to you (and if you decide on the NSA, make sure to take care of the safety precaustions as mentioned by the guys).

LegacyUser

Be sure that you at least get a good amount of pictures of him and get to know him a little before you decide to do this. You never know who your jumping in the sack with honestly. I would suggest to go to yahoo and type in "nsa hookups". The first site should be able to help you out. Best of luck.