I want to propose!

bunburgerlover

Hi

Hope someone can advise on the etiquette here. I want to propose to my long term GF. My only concern apart from her saying yes is that her sister is getting married in a few weeks.

Am I best advised to wait until after her sister's waiting and if so what's an accpetable "cooling off" period?

Thansk

WaltKowalski

You should wait until after the wedding celebrations are all over.
Wait 'til the couple go on honeymoon maybe.

dudara

Yes you should wait - you don't really want to overshadow your future sister-in-law's big day.

You could ask her beforehand too - but at least keep it quiet until afterwards.

Sue Rocks

definitely wait there was a "thunder stealing" issue like that with one of my friends recently enough and it was not good news.. some people will just take it the wrong way ... PS hope your other half doesnt use boards!!!

Toots

Definitely wait, my OH's sister got engaged two weeks after we did, and while I never said anything at the time, it annoyed me a bit. Especially seeing as they announced it the day before our engagement party! I was delighted for them, but if it had been the other way around I'd have waited until their celebrations were over before announcing anything.

Wait until they're back from honeymoon a couple of weeks, then do it.

artyeva

i'm just being curious here, but why would it bother you if you had just got married and your sister got engaged a few weeks before? just curious as i've never understood it.

Sue Rocks

Personally I wouldnt really mind but some women would (and do from experience) get upset as the focus is gone from them being a newly wed .. As i said personally it wouldnt bother me but for some it is a big deal I just think its better to be safe than sorry especially when you will be seeing the in-laws for the next God knows how long !!!

Pinklady828282

I wouldn't wait!

If it was me, i would love that! And even with my sister's upcoming wedding!

Dont worry about whether or not other people will be any way about it, because they are just going to be happy for you & your soon to be fiancee . .

Honestly, you'll make her so happy, do it! Now!!!

Good luck x

newtoboards

Get engaged after the wedding. It's so exciting getting engaged and that should be done with family. She won't get a chance to celebrate it properly with her sister if you do it now. The morning after her sisters wedding would be a good moment to catch her off guard over breakfast in bed. Then take her ring shopping and time it for when her sister comes home from her honeymoon to announce to family.

WaltKowalski

I'd wait just so I could spread out the happy occasions rather than have them fall on top of each other.