Meeting Guys into Music

LegacyUser

This might seem a really stupid question with a pretty obvious answer, but please hear me out.

I am mad into music. I used to play but mostly now I collect music and go to gigs. I have lots of interests but music is a main one and I could talk for hours about it. I have a fairly large music collection and TBH I couldnt really go out with someone who didnt have as large a collection as me. This might seem petty but it's just a preference
I'm probably coming across as a bit like those guys out of High Fidelity but I'm not that bad! I'm a girl BTW.

Anyway my problem is and I dont want to come across as a groupie (which I'm not) but I thought it might be a good way to meet guys at gigs. (BTW I am not going to gigs for the sole purpose of meeting guys, it is for the music primarily, but since I am looking)
Anyway I was at a festival recently and I was hanging around the soiund desk with some friends just watching the music and my friend was showing me how the controls work. I noticed one of the technicians was cute and I thought I could get talking to him. He wasnt working at the time. But then I thought, do sound technicians get chatted up all the time and would I look like a groupie?

SO that's my problem - trying to chat to guys who are into music without coming across as a sad groupie.

LegacyUser

Sorry they were sound engineers. I don't know why I callEd them technicians. Apologies to any sound ppl out there

magicwok

My problem is finding a girl thats into good music like my ex girlfriend was, I dont think i will be able to go out with a girl who is only into girly music like of Britney Spears, Aguelera, Beyonce etc, where are all the girls with good music taste and are into my bands like U2, Kasabian, Bruce Springsteen, Oasis, looks like i'm gonna be single for a long time

LegacyUser

Hi there, I am really surprised that you find it a problem meeting likeminded guys. I'm a girl who's majorly into music too ( have stacks of cds, dvds, biographies, memorabilia, travelled abroad to concerts alone etc). I think it's really easy to find guys into my kind of music ( 60's, Prog Rock, Rock, Metal, Gothic etc). My husband does not have an overly large collection of music, and is not as obsessed as I am ( rattling off usless trivia about bands), but he got me into some good stuff e.g Joy Division and opened me up to other genres. Actually every guy I've been out with has been into music too. It's the girls I find the problem. When I was in school I got such a slagging for listening to the Beach Boys, and no one could understand my excitement at going to see Ray Davies in Abbey Street. (born in the 80's so Davies not really my generation's time!)
I guess my advice is to maybe relax the ' his music collection must at least be as big as mine' rule, as that is a bit excessive, and just get talking to some guys - I bet you'll find many with similar interests in music...

LeixlipRed

OP, have you tried posting on the music forums on boards? Let's be honest, boards can bring people together

DamagedTrax

Music Me wrote: »

This might seem a really stupid question with a pretty obvious answer, but please hear me out.

I am mad into music. I used to play but mostly now I collect music and go to gigs. I have lots of interests but music is a main one and I could talk for hours about it. I have a fairly large music collection and TBH I couldnt really go out with someone who didnt have as large a collection as me. This might seem petty but it's just a preference
I'm probably coming across as a bit like those guys out of High Fidelity but I'm not that bad! I'm a girl BTW.

Anyway my problem is and I dont want to come across as a groupie (which I'm not) but I thought it might be a good way to meet guys at gigs. (BTW I am not going to gigs for the sole purpose of meeting guys, it is for the music primarily, but since I am looking)
Anyway I was at a festival recently and I was hanging around the soiund desk with some friends just watching the music and my friend was showing me how the controls work. I noticed one of the technicians was cute and I thought I could get talking to him. He wasnt working at the time. But then I thought, do sound technicians get chatted up all the time and would I look like a groupie?

SO that's my problem - trying to chat to guys who are into music without coming across as a sad groupie.

sound engineer here so i think i can answer this one

no we never get chatted up

and do you really wanna date one of us? we're nerds, we're ALWAYS right about ANY aspect of music (and to even hint otherwise is grounds for a strop) and we keep the worst working hours... 80/90 hours a week isnt abnormal.

but we need love too :-) just say hello to us and mention stuff like "i love the low end on the new kasabian album" or "isnt spike stent awesome at mixing"

good luck with one of the stranger types of human on this planet :P

Faith

DamagedTrax wrote: »

and do you really wanna date one of us? we're nerds, we're ALWAYS right about ANY aspect of music (and to even hint otherwise is grounds for a strop) and we keep the worst working hours... 80/90 hours a week isnt abnormal.


good luck with one of the stranger types of human on this planet :P

As someone who went out with a guy heading for a career in sound engineering for almost two years, I can safely say the above is true . Not to mention having to sit in specific seats in the cinema so the sound is best.

Anyway, that aside, just chat to the guy. Just be prepared - if he is working, it may be extremely hard to tear his attention away from what he's doing.

LegacyUser

DamagedTrax wrote:

and do you really wanna date one of us? we're nerds, we're ALWAYS right about ANY aspect of music (and to even hint otherwise is grounds for a strop) and we keep the worst working hours... 80/90 hours a week isnt abnormal.

I am a total nerd too! And I love nerdy guys
my work is also time heavy but when you're mad about something it's not really work
I might have a problem with the Always right thing but 2 out of 3, eh!

So I definitely wouldn't look like a groupie? OK it looks like Ill have to be brave the next time I'm out

baldshin

I actually think it's harder to meet GIRLS into music! Especially in the male dominated rock/metal scene. I've never come across a girl anywhere near as into her music as I am, unfortunately.

kjl

God, I hate music snobs so much, yeah, you're great. You have listened and liked a few song, so has the rest of the world.

You wont date a guy with a small music collection, well I have news for you. We have these things now called iPods, and they hold our music pretty dame nicely.

If you are interested in the sound engineer then talk to him, stop acting like a child. I'm sure either way he will be flattered and nice to you and if he treats you like a groupie, well f it, you are, but I'm sure there is more to you.

My advice to you is relax and get to know people regardless of there music tastes. You know, sometime relationships work better because people bring different things to it, for example, you could meet a guy who doesn't know that much about music, but you could show him what you like and in return he would show you something interesting.

Monkey61

kjl wrote: »

My advice to you is relax and get to know people regardless of there music tastes. You know, sometime relationships work better because people bring different things to it, for example, you could meet a guy who doesn't know that much about music, but you could show him what you like and in return he would show you something interesting.

Calm down there man, there's nothing wrong with wanting a partner to share your favourite hobby! For some people, myself included, music is an absolutely vital part of life and something that is even better when you have the option of sharing it with loved ones. There is nothing snobby about loving a hobby or interest!

Before my current girlfriend, I'd never gone out with anyone who was as into music as I am. But now I am with someone with whom I can sit around for hours talking about gigs we've been to, bands we used to love, listening to albums, playing eachother songs on youtube, texting eachother lyrics etc - it's amazing to have someone to share that stuff with.

So anyway OP, of course you can approach a sound engineer. I honestly doubt that would make you seem like a groupie unless you were blatantly trying to get him to introduce you to the band or something! Go for it next time.

LegacyUser

kjl wrote: »

You wont date a guy with a small music collection, well I have news for you. We have these things now called iPods, and they hold our music pretty dame nicely.

If you are interested in the sound engineer then talk to him, stop acting like a child. I'm sure either way he will be flattered and nice to you and if he treats you like a groupie, well f it, you are, but I'm sure there is more to you.

I have no objection to a guy holding his record collection on his iPod as long as it was fairly substantial! OK I am a music snob. The thoughts of Westlife fill me with despair. I want to be able to discover new music and share music with a boyfriend.

Eek! Yes there is more to me kjl. Nothing wrong with sharing a passion with someone

LegacyUser

Monkey61 wrote: »

I can sit around for hours talking about gigs we've been to, bands we used to love, listening to albums, playing eachother songs on youtube, texting eachother lyrics etc - it's amazing to have someone to share that stuff with.

I would love this

KevArno

When I met my girlfriend, she wasnt into music at all. Hated me talking about music, and me being in a band, and playing guitar and singing every minute didn't help. But over time she started to appreciate everything about it, she came to my gigs, started buying music and all of a sudden she is dragging me to gigs all around the place. We were even in New York to see a couple of gigs she bought tickets for. I know I am rambling but if I had gone out of my way to find a muso-type girl then I would have missed her. So don't be so quick to rule out people who may just have never had the introduction to real music like you must have.