Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

being dumped

  • 01-07-2010 7:05pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok id like to hear peoples response to this based on past experiences.

    When you break up with someone does it matter who dumps who.
    No one likes being dumped so if you knew or suspect a relationship is coming
    to an end would you take the lead and do the dumping?

    Reason im asking is, ive been going out with my other half for over 2 years.
    The relationship just seems to have fizzled out and looks like its going to end.
    Noting bad happened it just wasnt working/
    Obviously it going to be a sad and lonely time for a while but from my own point
    of view im wondering does it matter who dumps who? or will knowing you've being
    dumped dent the self estem and add even more to the misery?


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    i don't think i really get the question...

    Are you saying you're just staying in a dead relationship "for the sake of it", in the hope that your partner will dump you, so that you don't have to dump them? Thats not healthy for anyone, you might think you're doing the "noble" thing by not hurting them but in the end you'll just get resentful of being "trapped" when you could be moving on. Its better to dump your partner now if you don't feel its working, rather than letting things fester, and bitterness and resentment creep in, it'll be far less messy to end things now for both parties than letting it drag on. who dumps who is irrelevant.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    idntgetit wrote: »
    i don't think i really get the question...

    Are you saying you're just staying in a dead relationship "for the sake of it", in the hope that your partner will dump you, so that you don't have to dump them? Thats not healthy for anyone, you might think you're doing the "noble" thing by not hurting them but in the end you'll just get resentful of being "trapped" when you could be moving on. Its better to dump your partner now if you don't feel its working, rather than letting things fester, and bitterness and resentment creep in, it'll be far less messy to end things now for both parties than letting it drag on. who dumps who is irrelevant.



    Sorry probally didnt explain it very well,
    For me personally, While i know its a dead relationship i still find it very hard to
    let it go. As stupid as it seems I guess the fear of being hurt and lonely is stronger than
    going with the flow in a relationship going nowhere.

    I guess what i was asking is when the time does come to break up does it matter who
    dumps who. i.e does it make it easier for yourself if you take that step and end it or
    if you wait for them to do it does it make it harder for yourself knowing you have been dumped. or does it make no difference at all.


Advertisement