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My boyfriend doesn't want to kiss me anymore

  • 01-07-2010 3:01pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    My boyfriend and I are both in our early twenties. We have been going out now for several years, when we first started going out we couldn't stop kissing. Nowadays though I'm lucky if I get a kiss once a week; I've brought this up with my boyfriend and he said he has no interest in kissing me anymore as it's like kissing wet tomato. I thought he was joking but was actually very offended to find out he was deadly serious. What makes this even worse and even more insulting to be frankly honest is that he kisses like a wet fish and always has done but I love him too much to say!


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  • #2
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    Ouch! The only thing you can do is ask him to show you how he'd like to be kissed.


  • #3
    Biggins
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 34,567 ✭✭✭✭Biggins


    As some blokes get older, they see signs of affection as something that is only done by a young crowd.
    Feelings of love or deep infatuation are thought to be there and a partner is expected to know that they are there... "...but you know I love you..."
    ...Well regardless of age and this applies both to male and female, its nice once in a while for some affection also to be showed, not just left to be expected.

    Be it a kiss, a hug, holding of hands, they should be done more often than not if one wants to retain a healthy relationship.
    Thats just my thoughts on the matter but I learned from mistakes of the past and I try harder more now.


  • #4
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    So what happens? You have sex but dont kiss during foreplay etc? I am not being a smart ass here - i am curious...


  • #5
    trio
    Closed Accounts Posts: 494 ✭✭trio


    he said he has no interest in kissing me anymore as it's like kissing wet tomato. I thought he was joking but was actually very offended to find out he was deadly serious.

    DEALBREAKER.

    I am not remotely one of those people who go around going "Dump Him!" in response to every damn thing. But this is a dealbreaker. Completely and utterly.

    Don't you want to be with someone who's aching to kiss you? My God woman - do you honestly think he's the best you can get? Someone who doesn't even want to KISS YOU??

    You've got to seriously think about your needs. And you need someone who needs to kiss you because they just fancy you that much!

    By the way, if you haven't copped by now - he's not that into you. The relationship is in real trouble. Possibly he's staying with you out of long-term habit.

    But let me spell it out - kissing is an absolute unequivocal 100% neccessity in any relationship. You are turning into brother and sister. It's just not on.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    he has no interest in kissing me anymore as it's like kissing wet tomato.

    christ if thats the way he views kissing you, what the hell is ye're sex life like??!

    OP if ye're not compatible at the very basic level of a relationship - kissing - then its not going to work.

    Why would you stay with someone who isn't attracted to you. I mean is there any chemistry between the two of you at all?!! it doesn't sound like it!!


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  • #7
    Ronald Helpless Fatigues
    Posts: 0 ✭ Ronald Helpless Fatigues


    yup would be a dealbreaker for me too ! kissing is very important


  • #8
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    He won't kiss you because of your kissing style? Has he made any attempts to rectify this issue or does he just think refusing to kiss you while in a relationship is perfectly alright? :eek: :confused:

    I'd be running in the opposite direction OP, kisses like a wet fish and would rather not kiss you than show you how he likes it? He sounds about 15...


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