Does Long Distance work

LegacyUser

Hi just wondering how hard is it for people who are in long Distance relationships?
I have recently met a lovely guy we are both nearly 30 and very much on same level. I am moving an hour and a half away for college in Sept. Just wondering what are peoples experiences..

Cheers

LegacyUser

Long distance is hard work

You say you are moving away hour and a half distance,i think this is completely posible,do you or your bf drive? and have cars ? If so this distance will mean nothing.Also buses are a possiblity

I am currently living in dublin and my other half lives in cork,the part he lives in is 4 hour drive away.I have been doing the long distance for a year now and it is without doubt the hardest thing i have had to do but if it means we get to be together a year down the line forever its worth it

You need to set a time for when u will ulimately be together a long distance relationship will not last if u don't agree on goals u both need to want the same things otherwise there will be lots of tears down the line.

I guess i am a silly romantic and think things will work out in the end.At least you can say that you tried and i'm sure your relationship will be ok

you can't just unlove someone because its not convenant maybe we need a bit of struggle and hardship to appreciate the great partners we have and build strong foundations for when you will get to be together full time

I wish you luck be strong and it will all be worth it x

carmel27

Hey OP,
I think it depends on you two and the effort that you are both willing to put into this, more than the actual distance between you. I went out with a guy for three yrs, who was a good two hour drive away from me. We both put in a good effort, him moreso than me sometimes, and the distance was never really an issue at all.

I recently met another guy, a farmer, who lives about 30-40 mins away from the town I live in, and I might as well be living on the moon. When we met, he clearly outlined that he rarely travels to town and hardly ever goes out there, and wouldnt be due to go there again for a few wks etc. (Ive visions of him coming in on the tractor and doing an annual shop on the 8th of December) and although he seemed nice, I couldnt be arsed with that!

So I guess if you both are willing to put in a little effort to travel to one another, there should be no bother. An hr and a half is nothing, in fairness.

Good Luck:D

I don't think an hour and a half qualifies as long distance
But yes it can absolutely work, you just have to be sure about it.

Bookkeeper09

I met my fiance when he was living in Leitrim and me in dublin.
For first year we only saw each other at weekends. He then moved down to Dublin and we're now engaged and getting married next year so it can work!