Trying to get back what I threw away

LegacyUser

Hey guys, I hop this isnt written too messy. Any advice would be appreciated.

A couple of years ago I met a really great girl on the internet, who Ill call Isabelle. We got on really really well, and we ended up having a relationship, before we even met, if that is possible. We were making plans to meet up. But back then I wasnt tuned in to what I really wanted. I thought I was in love with her,until I met another girl on the internet. So I dumped her =/ for the new girl, Lisa.
But Lisa was playing games and it never happened. I got back in contact with isabelle and managed to get her to agree for us to talk now and then. I told her I wanted her back, but she said that I would have to be more decisive about what I wanted and that she couldnt then, but didnt know about the future.
Since then we have become really close friends. She has been in a long distance relationship, and was really in love with this guy. She told me everything she felt about him, and I tried to give her advice on things. But he ended it as he didnt want a long distance relationship. she found it really hard at first, but time as heeled her alot.

Now to my issue. I have found myself in a position where I cant stop thinking of her. I regret every day how I made a stupid decision of ending it. In a couple of months she is moving to the country that her ex lives because of work reasons, it was her plan before she met him. Do you think i have any right to try to win her back? Should I be content with just being friends. And if I was to tell her, should I wait for her to finish her exams, so she doesnt have any extra worries?
I know I could have simplified it, but I think I needed to say the whole story. Thanks

LegacyUser

I'm a bit confused? Did you have a relationship with her "in real life" or over the internet? Did you ever meet?
Also, this girl Lisa. Did you have a relationship with her? What made you think she was better, so to speak?

AnonoBoy

I'm sorry but have you ever met either of these two girls in person or has it all been online?

KarenR1981

As a girl - I think you should try and show her how serious you are...send her flowers and a nice poem or a few works or meaning.

I am going through the same thing and I dont know what I can do to see how sorry I am and to give me another go - being a man what do you think I should do

LegacyUser

Op here,

I never met either in person, they both live in Europe. Isabelle and I agreed that we were in a relationship, we didnt need to wait to meet.

To answer what made me choose Lisa back then, she was physically stunning.
I was really really stupid and I probably dont deserve to have Isabelle back, but I just have to try.

Cheap Thrills!

RedemptionSong wrote: »

Op here,

I never met either in person, they both live in Europe.

OP, that is a bit deluded then, thinking you were in love with someone you never met? Thats not healthy.

RedemptionSong wrote: »

Isabelle and I agreed that we were in a relationship, we didnt need to wait to meet.

You have to meet someone to be in a relationship with them.

RedemptionSong wrote: »

To answer what made me choose Lisa back then, she was physically stunning.
I was really really stupid and I probably dont deserve to have Isabelle back, but I just have to try.

OP, why don't you turn off the PC and try to meet some real life people. Chatting on the web is all very well for a bit of amusement but it can't replace real life.

LegacyUser

Right... let me get this straight. You've never met either, neither of them live in the same country, you've only spoken to them on the internet and yet 2 years later, you are obsessing about someone you were in a virtual relationship with because you realise now what you've lost?

Em, not to be mean OP, but I seriously think you need to let this go and get out and meet real people and maybe have some real relationships!

Each to their own and all that but I can't help but think this is a bit odd.

I may be way off but this kind of suggests that you have some self esteem issues that you need to address.

yeah it really isnt a relationship if you dont ever meet

Miss Fluff

RedemptionSong wrote: »

To answer what made me choose Lisa back then, she was physically stunning.

Matthew McConaghy is visibly stunning too but not sure he'd appreciate me calling it a relationship seeing as we've never actually met.....

steddyeddy

Op i dont know you but as human being you can do better than finding love with a girl online.

Exclamation Marc

Being as a nice as I can be, you don't have a relationship with these people.

And without being rude, you don't really know these people, you only know a facet of who they are. People interact on the internet and in reality in massively different ways. I don't really understand how you can even dump a girl on the internet for another girl on the internet, because if you've never met surely what you are is just very close internet friends, in some sort of internet relationship.

Best advice I can give, forget about these girls, what they give/offer you right now is massively insignificant to what a girlfriend in real life can give you, and to pin all your hopes on these relationships will damage your interactivity with potential partners in the future, partners who can offer you more than chatting on the internet.

Also, if you've never met this girl, then surely her moving to another country is irrelevant????

OP you have more to give than just your internet persona, and you will get a lot more happiness/joy out of meeting someone and having a relationship where you can be with them.