Falling for a girl

LegacyUser

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I was a straight laced gal all my life and always dated and fancied guys. I sometimes admired women but never thought anything more of them. Until one night I met the most beautiful girl I have ever laid eyes on, and despite all I fell for her. We met up twice on nights out and got intimate both times. She'a smart, caring...everything you could want in a person. Initially I fought the whole thing and denied that it was happening but now I'm finding it impossible. She's so beautiful to me. The minute I laid eyes on her it was like wow! I think about her alot and would love to meet her again for a proper date. But I messed things up by blowing hot and cold on her...and this is why I am writing to you guys...

Last weekend I was hoping to meet her after the pride. I was going to ask her to be my date at it but then chickened out...anyway, on saturday i left it very late to text her because I had been busy the whole day. She didn't reply. I text her a few times after letting her know where I was whenever I moved to a different pub with my friends...still no reply.

Basically I haven't heard from her since early last week. I'm bummed. Last night I sent her a message (yes, another one...) apologising for all the texts I sent on saturday night and to explain how I felt but she hasn't replied...

Now I feel like a proper twat cos I've opened up to her and admitted that i like her. Even though I'm a girl, I've no idea how to read her. Is she giving me a silent PFO?

Sebastien De Valmont

Sorry to have to tell you this but you blew it by texting her too much and made her uncomfortable.

Don't text her again, forget about her and look for someone else.

LegacyUser

Thanks Sebastien. I won't contact her again. I've been in a spin since it all happened. Panic stations all around! I know I messed up. I'm not sure if I'll meet anyone quite like her again. She was the exception. So pretty and not at all butch in any way. Why did I have to act like a big needy freak with motor mouth syndrome! These things are so complicated!

dudara

Let her reply to you - if she does like you, then she will reply. Otherwise, just leave it be for now.

Sebastien De Valmont

she's beautiful wrote: »

Thanks Sebastien. I won't contact her again. I've been in a spin since it all happened. Panic stations all around! I know I messed up. I'm not sure if I'll meet anyone quite like her again. She was the exception. So pretty and not at all butch in any way. Why did I have to act like a big needy freak with motor mouth syndrome! These things are so complicated!

If you are convinced she was so wonderful why not try going out with a dozen other women and then see if she is that wonderful after all?

When you are too focused on one person you miss all the opportunities that are all around you.

LegacyUser

Sebastien De Valmont wrote: »

If you are convinced she was so wonderful why not try going out with a dozen other women and then see if she is that wonderful after all?

When you are too focused on one person you miss all the opportunities that are all around you.

True. I've never been with a girl before. She's my first. In comparison to initial attractions I've had with guys, I've never had that bolt of lightening effect before. I'll wait patiently and see if she gets back to me. Thanks for your advice Dudara also.

Micahelxcx

What is your sexuality? Bi or Les? You haven't said.
This may just be a 'crush' and you're 'smitten' by her.

If you really are Les then I would hope to meet other girls and see how dates go with them. Then I would compare this 'wonderful' girl with the others and make a choice.

Seems to me this new sexual relationship was new experience that was different from those with guys. You need to decide initially whether you are bi or les, as I mentioned above.

In relation to opening up to someone. I wouldn't do that sort of thing for at least half a dozen dates and then I would be very slow with them.
You don't want to come across as being needy and desperate.

I wouldn't text her again. It's her loss, and if she hasn't got the manners or common courtesy to respond to you then she can't be all you've made her out to be.

Do some soul searching first and when you have decided who you are then move to the next stage.

LegacyUser

Micahelxcx wrote: »

What is your sexuality? Bi or Les? You haven't said.
This may just be a 'crush' and you're 'smitten' by her.

If you really are Les then I would hope to meet other girls and see how dates go with them. Then I would compare this 'wonderful' girl with the others and make a choice.

Seems to me this new sexual relationship was new experience that was different from those with guys. You need to decide initially whether you are bi or les, as I mentioned above.

In relation to opening up to someone. I wouldn't do that sort of thing for at least half a dozen dates and then I would be very slow with them.
You don't want to come across as being needy and desperate.

I wouldn't text her again. It's her loss, and if she hasn't got the manners or common courtesy to respond to you then she can't be all you've made her out to be.

Do some soul searching first and when you have decided who you are then move to the next stage.

Good advice, thank you. I think I might be bi which I've only just discovered. I've never been with any other girl. It's just something that happened out of the blue for me. I wasn't looking. She struck a cord with me. It's hard to explain. At the moment, I wouldn't consider having a relationship with any other girl.

I going to leave it. If she replies, well and good. If not, it's no reflection on me as a person and at least I can say I was honest with her whether she liked it or not.