Friends or ??

LegacyUser

Hi,

Maybe someone can help clear up something in my mind. Its about myself and a good friend of mine. I did post this in another section but to no avail I really need some advice.

I guess I give an overview first, I am female 26 and my friend is a year younger. We like similar things, joke and mess all the time.

We are great friends, call and text all the time for hours on end, and when we visit it goes on into the wee hours of the morning.
I am mad about her and she the same.

But I find lately me are getting very close physical and emotional, we share a lot of secrets etc. Say we are listening to music or movie or just chatting and there is no one else about, we end up all entwinged in each other.
Holding eachother, and caressing hands, rubbing backs etc, thing is I never start this contact she always cuddles up to me, not that I say anything

I am not overly affentate person but I havnt any issue with her being that close to me or I to her, I am comfortable with it

But my worry is, is this normal like for friends
I wouldnt dream of acting like that with this any of my other friends it just wouldnt happen, to me its more like couple behaviour

does my friend want more??.
I dont want to hurt her, I dont want to lose her. But I dont think I could give her anything more if thats wants on her mind

any suggestions what to do

LegacyUser

Do you know what your friends orientation is? If you know shes gay then the likliehood is that she's hoping for more. If not then I think its anyones guess. It does sound a little more physical than your average friendship. Maybe shes curious, maybe shes that physical with all her friends though considering you seem to spend alot of time together it sounds a little more than that. If you know she's straight and presuming you are too then its possible your both in the same boat and shes also having the same concerns. Sorry I cant offer any better answers.

Sebastien De Valmont

Reading between the lines I can positively tell that you are both attracted to eachother.

The next time she is getting touchy feely with you, just smile sweetly, look her right in the eyes, brush her hair back from her face with your hand and just lean in and kiss her right there and then by touching her gently on the lips and just go with it. She will melt like butter.

Do what you think feels good.

fungun

have a drink first so you can blame it on that if it goes badly!

to be perfectly honest i have female friends who are quite like that with each other. Anyway you sound like you dont want it to go any further? If so, then I wouldnt worry too much about it.

LegacyUser

noanswers wrote: »

Do you know what your friends orientation is? If you know shes gay then the likliehood is that she's hoping for more. If not then I think its anyones guess. It does sound a little more physical than your average friendship. Maybe shes curious, maybe shes that physical with all her friends though considering you seem to spend alot of time together it sounds a little more than that. If you know she's straight and presuming you are too then its possible your both in the same boat and shes also having the same concerns. Sorry I cant offer any better answers.

She says she is straight , yet I have never known her to have a guy or to flirt with any. I have asked her about this before

I have never been with a girl, maybe this is stupid but I couldnt see how it would work for us. If I only knew what was going on in her head

I like the closeness but I suppose I am confused, even tonight we both agreed we are happy talking to eachother most days , I never would have considered myslf someone who would bother going out of my way to text someone all the time.