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So whats the big secret with meeting guys?

  • 26-06-2010 10:05pm
    #1
    JamieL
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1 ✭


    Hey,

    First post here.
    I'm 24 and bi but not out. I haven't been with a guy yet because I don't have the confidence to chat up guys without the fear of them not being gay/bi .. and them getting really pissed off! :rolleyes:

    I'd really like to try it out an just wondered whats the best way to go about it. I've had a few guys come onto me before but just played the "I'm not bi" card because I wasn't that interested in them.

    I'm certainly not shy but just dont know how to approach guys.. like what do I do.. "eh hello there, you bi by any chance?". This sh*t is much easier with girls! :)


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  • #2
    baby and crumble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,512 ✭✭✭baby and crumble


    Well, I'm not a guy, but it does go in reverse...

    Your best bet is to go where people who fancy their own sex are going to be- aka a gay bar/ gay night. That way it's unlikely a guy who's in there will get pissed off either way- if he's gay/bi, then way-hey, but if he's straight and in a gay bar he's unlikely to be there unless hes at least pretty cool about stuff*.

    *Caveat- this is not the case with straight girls in gay bars. The amount of straight girls who get annoyed when you hit on them in gay bars is ridiculous.


  • #3
    Plautus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 759 ✭✭✭Plautus


    Hey there! I think even for straight people meeting potential significant others is a challenge so don't worry about it too much.

    Like the above poster said, do try gay bars. In the alternative, and it's how I met my boyfriend, make some gay/bisexual friends first and you'd be surprised how quickly you're brought into contact with eligible bachelors through friends of friends and socialising. In my case I was actually set up, lucky me - still going strong two years later :p

    Oh, and furthermore there is Gaydar and its ilk. It's definitely a site with a fair share of ... strangeness shall we say ... and self-loathing homosexuals/bisexuals as well but if you persevere with it you can get results.


  • #4
    Dave_24irl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43 ✭Dave_24irl


    Hey man,

    I am in the exact same boat. I am 24, just out of a long term relationship with a girl. (Three years!) so I am completely at sea as to what to do regarding chatting up guys. I am bi too and it is quite difficult when no one else knows. That said, I know a few bi people, not very well but they don't seem to have any trouble with either sex but I am putting that down to the fact that they are out.


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