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Difficulty with coping

  • 24-06-2010 8:55am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all,
    Gosh I really don't know where to begin with my troubles.
    I'm finding it very difficult to cope recently. Work is really stressing me out. I made a fairly big mistake in work a few weeks ago (although it wasn't disastrous, and it eventually got sorted out) and I feel that since then they are just waiting for my next mistake and are watching me really closely. I've worked there for about 5 years and am good at my job, so it really upsets me. The other day my Manager spoke to me about my timekeeping. Never been a problem before, but after the blunder I made everything I do is being monitored very closely.

    Some life-changing things happened to me in the last few years. Lost my Mother (suddenly) and split from a long term boyfriend of 10 years. I depended on him a lot, and suspect that's the reason I stayed in the relationship for so long, but the relationship wasn't right for me so I moved on. It was a very difficult decision.
    I find these days that I can't even make a decision on my own anymore. I need some sort of approval from people before deciding on something, even the small things, as my old boyfriend would have given me great advice, even about little every day things.

    What I'm wondering is has anyone here any stress coping mechanism tips? Book recommendations on coping with lonliness?

    Anyone else go through anything similar?

    Sorry for the essay! Thanks if you have read it all :)


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hey, I'm really sorry to hear how lonely you feel. I think the best advice is always to find someone to talk with about everything. If you don't feel right saying it to people you know then go to a counsellor, it's what they're paid to do! It really helps to just talk about it I swear


  • #3
    irishdub74
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25 ✭irishdub74


    Hi Op,
    Something similar happened to me in work recently and it is very hard to try and forget about it, but i agree with the previous poster that you should probably talk to a counsellor - but remember that whatever it was you done it's not the end of the world and your a good person, i would go walking a lot in the evening and listen to my Ipod not the answer for everyone but it helps me.
    You have got to where you are today because of your own ability,never forget that..


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