Engagement ring, one for the ladies I think..

Supercell

I have a little problem that i think i need a women's opinion on!
My honeybun is Chinese and the tradition in her area is to buy a ring, ear rings and necklace which she will wear during the wedding day too.

Now here is the problem..
I told her the western traditions is more to buy a nice ring only, and she was fine with that and said she would love to be surprised by me with it (she is in China at the moment so we cannot choose together).

I really reeeeeeeeeeeealy want to get her a beautiful ring that she will wear often because she loves it. I chatted to one of her friends online and she recommend some rings that she was SURE that she would like..but when I asked her in a casual way like..what do you think of these honeybun?, she said she didnt like them....

I have asked her to show me pictures of rings she would like and she has sent me some. I have been pushing her to send me as many pictures as possible as I want to buy the ring next month (funds in place!). Today she was all excited about some "beautiful" ring she saw in a jewellers, her face totally lit up about it. She didnt have a picture of it so i asked her what price was it, it was about 40% of what I had in mind for a ring for her, she thought it was far too expensive and just a dream, i just said that is nice honeybun, please see if you can get a picture to send me to check out.

So here is my dilemma, I would far prefer to buy her this ring and have money left over to get her the necklace and ear ring that are the done thing over there.
Or I get her a ring she might not like but secretly pretends to....that costs about the same as the "beautiful" ring that makes her face light up but no nice set of ear rings and necklace too for the same money.

Personally I think that I should let her choose and shop with her over there is by far the better option. But she is a quite romantic and thinks it is very romantic if I present her with a surprise ring of my choosing.

So girls, what do you think?

Whispered

Such a sweet post. She's a lucky honeybun.

Do you know what metal the ring is (I assume gold but just in case). Could you buy her the earrings and necklace set here, as her suprise. Then organise a lovely day for her when you get there, culminating with you two being outside the shop she saw the ring in and you presenting her with her suprise necklace and earrings then the two of you going in to buy the ring.

That way she has the lovely suprise of being presented with a suprise gift that you have obviously put a lot of thought into and still gets the ring of her dreams.

I think it would be lovely to respect her traditions and get her the necklace and earrings too.

How Strange

Supercell wrote: »

Today she was all excited about some "beautiful" ring she saw in a jewellers, her face totally lit up about it. She didnt have a picture of it so i asked her what price was it, it was about 40% of what I had in mind for a ring for her, she thought it was far too expensive and just a dream,
So here is my dilemma, I would far prefer to buy her this ring and have money left over to get her the necklace and ear ring that are the done thing over there.

It really isn't about how much it costs, it's about what she likes because she will be wearing it for years and years to come. Men always seem to think more expensive = better. Not necessarily.

Or I get her a ring she might not like but secretly pretends to....that costs about the same as the "beautiful" ring that makes her face light up but no nice set of ear rings and necklace too for the same money.

No, get her the ring she said she likes AND conform with her traditions and get the necklace and ear rings too.

Personally I think that I should let her choose and shop with her over there is by far the better option.

I'd go for this.

But she is a quite romantic and thinks it is very romantic if I present her with a surprise ring of my choosing.

Perhaps she doesn't want to come across as a bridezilla to be. IMO, she will be wearing the ring day in day out for years so it has to be one she loves otherwise it will sit in a jewellery box and never get worn.

hunnymonster

could you get one of her friends over there to get it and send it to you?

Supercell

Whispered wrote: »

Could you buy her the earrings and necklace set here, as her suprise. Then organise a lovely day for her when you get there, culminating with you two being outside the shop she saw the ring in and you presenting her with her suprise necklace and earrings then the two of you going in to buy the ring.

That way she has the lovely suprise of being presented with a suprise gift that you have obviously put a lot of thought into and still gets the ring of her dreams.

I think it would be lovely to respect her traditions and get her the necklace and earrings too.

That is a brilliant idea! I think I'm on safer ground with ear rings and necklace I think maybe ear rings are the safest. I know she likes white gold so will get her something simple with white gold and diamonds that should go with a nice necklace

How Strange wrote: »

No, get her the ring she said she likes AND conform with her traditions and get the necklace and ear rings too.


I'd go for this.

Sorry that's what i meant, tripped up on my own words there!

hunnymonster wrote: »

could you get one of her friends over there to get it and send it to you?

I actually did think about that but unfortunately i would get stung badly by customs doing that so its not doable which is a pity as it would be a great solution.

I am gonna get her earrings in a simple elegant design and we will choose the ring and necklace there, that is the best of both worlds I think.
Thanks all for your advice