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HEN NIGHT ETIQUETTE

  • 22-06-2010 11:54am
    #1
    Unwilling
    Closed Accounts Posts: 275 ✭✭


    Hello

    I was wondering if anyone can help me out with the Etiquette for organising a Hens.

    Our wedding reception itself is quite small, limited to family. We're only having the meal part to appease family.
    Really we're more interested in the after party and having ALL our friends there to celebrate with us.

    So I'm embarking on the organising of the Hens and it has occured to me, can you invite people to the Hens if they are NOT invited to the ceremony and reception but only to the after party?

    Any thoughts or opinions on that!? Cause i don't want to upset any one


Comments

  • #2
    cch
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 318 ✭✭cch


    If they're invited to the afters then that's absolutely fine.

    I helped a friend organise her hen, they were having a similar type day and she gave me a list of people to contact. Some people got back to me with "Have they set the date?!" :o
    So just send the invites out before organising it!


  • #3
    leap
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47 ✭leap


    Hi, we are having a similiar wedding. On the hen night invite emails we said that as "bride" and "groom" are having a small wedding it would be great if as many people as possible could go to the hen.


  • #4
    Unwilling
    Closed Accounts Posts: 275 ✭✭Unwilling


    That is a really good point - I should send out the wedding and evening invites prior to discussing the hens. That way it would avoid embarrasment of people assuming they were invited to the reception.

    So how soon would you sent out the evening invites... I was thinking 8 weeks before the wedding!
    The reception/day invites are going out in the next week or so (wedding is end of october)

    THANKS GUYS


  • #5
    BC
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,326 ✭✭✭BC


    Evening invites are usually sent about 3/4 weeks before the wedding.

    Normally I would find it very odd to have people at the hen who are only invited to the afters. However in your case as the meal is family only I think it would be grand.


  • #6
    tatli_lokma
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,332 ✭✭✭tatli_lokma


    Unwilling wrote: »
    !The reception/day invites are going out in the next week or so (wedding is end of october)

    THANKS GUYS

    :eek:
    you're sending your day invites now, 4 mths before the wedding??? that is VERY early.

    Unless you are having your wedding abroad, or have a lot of people needing to travel to the wedding??

    The usual etiquette is 6-10 weeks before the date - this gives a couple of weeks for the guest to decide if attending and return the RSVP in time for the couple to add them to the confirmed/declined list.

    also, it is not considered good form to invite day guests so far in advance of the evening guests. I know you don't need RSVP as much from evening guests, but by splitting the invitations so greatly people will assume when they hear that some people got theirs and they got none that they are not invited at all - then 2mths later when their evening invite arrives they may think they are invited as an afterthought.

    The usual is to send all invites together and at least 6 weeks before the wedding, and usually no more than 10 weeks before. (again allowing for a bit longer or a save the date card for weddings abroad or which require more travel by guests).

    HTH


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