Never kissed a girl

RonFan

I have been around girls often in the past, and been brave enough to make advancements towards them. But each time got completely turned down. I have even been to discos full of girls running around crazily eating the face off any lad they can find. Any lad except me of course. This has left me indescribably frustrated in many different ways. In my earlier years I was always teased by girls and labelled "the ugliest guy in the year" etc. This shattered my confidence and made me feel as if I could never be desired by any girl.

I am still only 18, but as I recall, it was expected of you to have 'met' someone by age 13 or so. It is a milestone that I feel desperate to pass, maybe I associate it with being wanted, a feeling I never got to experience and subsequently desire. It would lift my confidence and allow me to feel more comfortable around females and be able to possibly form relationships better, which is what I would really like to gain.

Any advice to give me? I would love to hear from someone that has been or still is in a similar situation, as it feels like I am the only one suffering from these feelings.

annemarie13

hey, ur so young, dont be peer pressured. i didnt kiss a guy till i was 18 but before that i always thought no guy would want to be with me. dont worry u will meet a girl it takes time. things in your life will change as u get older, college etc.

dont worry and dont lose that confidence u have.

NothingMan

When people kiss at 13 it's generally out of peer pressure or childish influence. At 18 a kiss won't be a "will you snog/shift/meet my mate" situation. The main thing would be to have girls in your social circle. My first real kiss was with a girl from a social club I was in and it happened naturally and nicely, not behind a bike shed with 10 mates jeering around the corner.

Going up to girls in pubs and clubs is a lot more difficult than meeting them at a club or event where you share a mutual interest or mutual friends. So make sure you have some of those things going for you and you'll meet someone you click with eventually and then it will be much easier to ask them out or make a move.

LegacyUser

i'm in the same situation, only i'm 25. what if my luck changes and i get an opportunity? should i tell her the truth? she would freak out and run away. or should i just let her find out that i can't kiss? i would embarass myself and she would run away anyway.

how can i prepare myself? is there way to learn to kiss??? or am i just meant to be doomed even if i get lucky?

LegacyUser

You know Ron many people are like you i'm one of them. I'm the exact same age as you aswell.

I know it's tough I feel like an outsider particularly when friends talk about their girlfirends ake ya feel really lonely..

NothingMan

llloooser wrote: »

how can i prepare myself? is there way to learn to kiss??? or am i just meant to be doomed even if i get lucky?

There's no art to kissing. Just keep it simple and let them lead. Probably not the best idea to open with 'You're my first kiss, what do I do?". Just relax and enjoy the moment.

BumbleB

I got mine when i spinned the bottle.She was gorgeous.

RonFan

NothingMan wrote: »

When people kiss at 13 it's generally out of peer pressure or childish influence. At 18 a kiss won't be a "will you snog/shift/meet my mate" situation. The main thing would be to have girls in your social circle. My first real kiss was with a girl from a social club I was in and it happened naturally and nicely, not behind a bike shed with 10 mates jeering around the corner.

That's why I feel that if it hasn't happened for you by the time you are 18, it never will. I am seriously considering acquiring an escort's services.

BumbleB

RonFan wrote: »

That's why I feel that if it hasn't happened for you by the time you are 18, it never will. I am seriously considering acquiring an escort's services.

WTF ?..Dont do that !Ron you may feel your on your own but theres loads like you . keep the head up!.When ur in college you will have a never ending amount of girls to go out with.Ugliness never stopped me.

NothingMan

RonFan wrote: »

That's why I feel that if it hasn't happened for you by the time you are 18, it never will. I am seriously considering acquiring an escort's services.

You're 18, it's not that old. I have plenty of friends who were older than that. You would always regret using an escort for your first time. Just join a club, something you're interested in that isn't severely dominated by guys. Just relax, enjoy the hobby and it's much easier to talk to someone you share an interest with.

tenchi-fan

My first was when I was 12.. then didn't get kissed again til I was 19 -- and it was just a drunken, "you'll do", type situation.

I think women can smell your lack of confidence and that's what's turning them off.. not your looks. I think you should ask the assistant in river island to help you pick a nice shirt, get a cool hair cut with plenty of wax and douse yourself with aftershave.

In the disco, have a few shots but not enough to get drunk, and get a good wingman rather than hanging round with a bunch of lads or even worse doing laps by yourself.

422nd

My first wasn't till sixteen. And if you're as lucky as i apparently was, you'll be told up front that you're great at it from word go. Course i still didn't mention the fact that it was my first kiss. You really do just have to relax, as difficult as that is, i know. But it is the key to getting it 'right', for want of a better word. Good luck.

RonFan

NothingMan wrote: »

You're 18, it's not that old. I have plenty of friends who were older than that. You would always regret using an escort for your first time. Just join a club, something you're interested in that isn't severely dominated by guys. Just relax, enjoy the hobby and it's much easier to talk to someone you share an interest with.

What, like a nightclub? Iv'e been to one. They just make you feel hopeless.

fungun

try not being a fan of Ronaldo!!!

Seriously though....I was horrible looking as a teenager, remember being called a frog by a girl once. Had buck teeth, manky glasses, tbf i was pretty ugly.
College came, grew into myself, got contacts and was actually ok....and because i wasnt used to girls falling over me, I scored well because i actually took the time to talk/make them laugh etc. Of all the times in your life, college is the time to get out there!

So....Id say try not to worry about it. If there is sth awful about your appearance (like my awful glasses) maybe try doing sth about it. But if you are happy in yourself, the girls will come....especially as you hit your 20s

Good luck

RonFan

fungun wrote: »

try not being a fan of Ronaldo!!!

Seriously though....I was horrible looking as a teenager, remember being called a frog by a girl once. Had buck teeth, manky glasses, tbf i was pretty ugly.
College came, grew into myself, got contacts and was actually ok....and because i wasnt used to girls falling over me, I scored well because i actually took the time to talk/make them laugh etc. Of all the times in your life, college is the time to get out there!

So....Id say try not to worry about it. If there is sth awful about your appearance (like my awful glasses) maybe try doing sth about it. But if you are happy in yourself, the girls will come....especially as you hit your 20s

Good luck

I'm disgusted as to think that you would have so little belief in the footballing knowledge of a stranger on the internet. The other Ron, the aldinho one.

NothingMan

RonFan wrote: »

What, like a nightclub? Iv'e been to one. They just make you feel hopeless.

No, not a nightclub. I think they're the worst place to meet someone.I mean a club for a particular hobby. Photography club etc... Something that's not too male dominated.

RonFan

NothingMan wrote: »

No, not a nightclub. I think they're the worst place to meet someone.I mean a club for a particular hobby. Photography club etc... Something that's not too male dominated.

How do you join one of these clubs? I've never heard of them.

NothingMan

RonFan wrote: »

How do you join one of these clubs? I've never heard of them.

I don't mean any particular club. But do you have any hobbies or would you like to get involved in something. There's clubs & societies around for everything.