ex wife bringin kid to south africa

fran_and99

hi there
ok i am living with my ex wife, she is bringing my 3 year old girl to south africa for 4 weeks ( we are both irish ) i aint keen on this, the flight is already paid for, what i like to know is first, does she have to ask permission from me for her to bring the kid, myself and my ex wife arent seperated yet, and if i refuse to let the kid go will she be able to bring the kid anyway without my permission

lisawashere

fran_and99 wrote: »

hi there
ok i am living with my ex wife, she is bringing my 3 year old girl to south africa for 4 weeks ( we are both irish ) i aint keen on this, the flight is already paid for, what i like to know is first, does she have to ask permission from me for her to bring the kid, myself and my ex wife arent seperated yet, and if i refuse to let the kid go will she be able to bring the kid anyway without my permission

If you have shared guardianship I would think that you have some say in decisions like this. As you are now in the process of becoming a single parent, you may be able to get some advice from the people at One Family or the likes in regard to finding out what your rights are, I believe they have a free phone number- check out their website.

hickory99

I'm sorry to tell you this but based on my own experience I dont think there is anything you can do to stop her taking the child. I've been fighting the battle for nearly three years and fathers seems to have very limited rights here.
My partners ex was able to take their 3 children out of the counrty a week after she tried to kill herself and we were told in the court district office sorry there is nothing we can do.
They are very reluctant to help fathers, having said that she can stop you taking them away if she ever feels like it or so it would seem from what we've gone through.
Terribly sorry to be the bearer of bad news, we're still fighting the battle of fathers rights but it is a tiring, mentally exhausting and emtionally crippling.
I feel for you and every other father and male in this country. For those who are happily married this fight means nothing but to those who experience it is soul distroying.
You can pm me if you like and I can give you some of our experience. I'm studying family law now but am by no means a qualified solicitor but can relate to what your going through.

eagle_&_bear

Go see a solicitor and look into bringing certain applications.

Don't delay. Maybe, an injunction (as a remedy) might be open to you but go speak to your solicitor.

This is a serious matter. no one should be advising you on this matter via the boards

hickory99

Hey sorry,
Wasen't trying to offer legal advise just our own experience with a similar situation. Of course any father in this country needs a good solicitor but they also need to talk to other fathers that are going through similar and will understand the pain of it and that all i'm offering

Maximilian

As eagle & bear said.