First Love....

LegacyUser

Hi guys....

Let me start by saying I love my current girlfriend with all my heart, she is the best thing in my life. But heres the problem... I cant stop thinking about my first love! We had an extremely passionate and firey relationship, we went through alot together, things ended badly but I always forgave her for things she had done and would always always make it my business to speak to her if I ever saw her out (which isn't very often; a couple of times a year) God sometimes I miss her. I think about her often, that cant be healthy? My current gf is really great and I feel so bad for thinking about ex, she would be devastated if she knew I dont know how to stop thinking about ex! Damn... Has she stolen apart of me forever? How can I stop this!! Ahhhh.....

Sorry for the rant.. I just dont know what to do!

fungun

you never forget your first love, is always special, so i dont think its unusual - Id have stayed with mine and forgiven her anything. But I daily thank God that that fcuked up bitch is no longer in my life, lol.
Must be hard to have your first love as a friend though, given all that. Id put what you feel for her down to 'affection' and smile at the memories and remember thats what they are - memories.

Ickle Magoo

Hey OP,

I think when you felt so strongly about someone and you shared such emotive times together that a little bit of you always feel something for them - but I'm not sure I'd ever miss my exes or think about them often so I don't know whether your feelings for your ex are just sentimentality driven fond memories or something more...I guess as long as you think about your girlfriend more often and with even greater feeling then it's not really an issue and something that will probably lessen over time.

Best of luck.

Good Advice

hey op,
how long wer you with her for and wat age were you?
you broke up for a reason remember and you said it ended badly,you obviously still love her and i tink everyone still will love there first love it cant be switched off im afraid...but is there a chance you want to be back with her?i think you have to be honest with your girlfriend if your having doubts or anything...do you still feel as strongly for your ex as you did bak den?..
its a toughy alryt but you really just have to be honest with yourself do you want to go back to the past or move forward with your current girlfriend but the only way to forget her is not to be friends with her maybe..sorry i dunno whether i helpin im confusing myself too lol

Silverfish

Good advice, please do not use text speak in this forum.

Good Advice

sorry .....:(

LegacyUser

Hi guys,

thanks for the advice. I was with her one and off for about 3 years. It ended badly, she broke my heart so I know I am looking back with 'rose tinted glasses' as they say. I would never ever act on any of these feelings I have too much love and respect for my current partner who will always come first. Grrr but I can stop the thinking! I dont know why. Its so stressful! Looks like I might be haunted by past forever

As for my ex I know she still feels extremely strongly for me and has told me she will never love anyone else and from what I know never has sadly.

I just dont know... I mean I haven't been thinking of her during the whole time of my relationship its just gotten stronger recently and I cant put my finger on why.

Thanks everyone