A Genius tip for taking a Lady on a First Date

Wacker

Hi Guys,

I've never tried this myself, just so you know. It's a tip I read on Reddit; maybe you'll have some use for it:

Never tell a girl where you’re going or how to dress. Instead, tell her to "dress for a first date with a guy she really likes". Now, pick three places you'd like to go: someplace fun and active (bowling, pool, mini golf, go-kart racing, etc), something romantic and classy (nice restaurant, upscale bar, art gallery exhibition) and something in between (nice bar, coffee shop, comedy club). Now, when you pick her up, let the way she's dressed decide which you’re going to do: If she's wearing something sexy and revealing (dress, high heels, low cut top, etc.) than she wants to go somewhere classy and romantic. If she's sporting some jeans, tennis shoes or flip-flops, and a tee, the bowling ally or pool hall may be a good bet. If she's wearing jeans, high heeled boots, and nice top or blouse, than she's not really jonesing for the super romance treatment, and she put in more effort than mini golf deserves (eighteen holes of mini golf in heels... seriously?), so a comedy club or some place with live music is a good choice. And never, EVER, do a movie on the first date! EDIT: Men: You're going to wear a pair of CLEAN, NEAT jeans, a pressed stylish LONG sleeve button down shirt, nice shoes or boots (try to avoid runners).
Works for ANY occasion!

Best of luck.

mood

As I woman I disagree 100%. I wouldn't feel comfortable going on a date unless I knew where we were going. In fact I thin I would cancel if I was left in the dark. Your going on a date not treating a 5 year old child! Also what if the girl thinks 'Oh, we must be going for dinner' so doesn't eat much then you land her in a pub or whatever? What if you take her to see a band she hates? It's just bad advice and show bad manners IMHO. I really hope no guy follows this advice.

g'em

actually I quite like it - a bit of spontaneity and a surprise could be lots of fun, and if it all goes horribly wrong but you still like the guy then you just say where you would like to go for date number 2. Of course if you don't like him, then meh, you just don't arrange date number 2 at all

mood

g'em wrote: »

actually I quite like it - a bit of spontaneity and a surprise could be lots of fun, and if it all goes horribly wrong but you still like the guy then you just say where you would like to go for date number 2. Of course if you don't like him, then meh, you just don't arrange date number 2 at all

I would like a surprise or whatever if I guy or boyfriend who knows me well, who knows I would like the venue etc. Also a guy might think high heals = club but to me it wouldn't.

But I think it's important to know if you should eat before going out. I wouldn't enjoy a date with my dream man if I was starving. All I would be thinking about is food!

I really think doing by following this advice it's more likely to not lead to a second date!

Ickle Magoo

I like the spontaneity as well - it would certainly be more interesting and make for a better conversation piece than sitting in the cinema in silence or swapping awkward questions over dinner....I'd also have no qualms saying if I was starving and then suggesting going somewhere to eat - I don't know why anyone would just sit there starving!

g'em

mood wrote: »

I really think doing by following this advice it's more likely to not lead to a second date!

for you perhaps, whereas I'd love a guy to put so much thought into it that he'd plan a few different dates with me all to be decided on a whim - it sounds like a fantastic fun and I'd get a real kick out of it! And that's the beauty of us gals - we're all different

Khannie

g'em wrote: »

that's the beauty of us gals - we're all different

It's both wonderful and terribly confusing. Men like formulas. if x then y else z.

mood

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

I like the spontaneity as well - it would certainly be more interesting and make for a better conversation piece than sitting in the cinema in silence or swapping awkward questions over dinner....I'd also have no qualms saying if I was starving and then suggesting going somewhere to eat - I don't know why anyone would just sit there starving!

Well I would like a say in where I go. And don't think venue should be decided based on my clothes.

Also, I don't live in Dublin so if a guy decided we were going bowling based on the fact I wore flat shoes and I was starving it would be hard to find anywhere to eat without having booked in advanced. Obviously I wouldn't seat there starving but wouldn't like having to go somewhere not so nice to eat while my date eats nothing (because he already had dinner).

I would be nervous enough on a first date without having the pressure of not know what to wear, not know if I should have dinner before hand or not etc.

Maybe it would be ok to suggest this 'tip' to a girl and see if she likes the idea or not. Obviously some girls here would be on for it but I wouldn't.

Ickle Magoo

It would have to be an exceptionally small town not to be able to find a food outlet at some stage...apart from the fact that you always have the option of asking if a meal will be involved so you know whether to eat or not before you go when asked out - I don't think the spontaneous choice of activities has to revolve around food & eating & being starving/full anyway, does it?

If you live somewhere where there isn't the choice of bowling, pool, mini golf, go-kart racing, nice restaurant, up-scale bar, art gallery exhibition, nice bar, coffee shop, comedy club to choose from then the OP hardly applies in that situation, does it?

In fairness, I don't get worked up about first dates, it's just a bit of fun at that stage. I also don't like the old fashioned formal dating "rules"...so the OP's suggestion suits people like me, I guess. :cool:

banshee_bones

First dates can be hard enough for some people so I can see why it wouldnt suit everyone. Personally I like it, mystery element is kinda cool.
Also, theres nothing to say that this couldnt be done on a second or third date once all the first date jitters have passed!

Wacker

Wacker wrote: »

Hi Guys,

I've never tried this myself, just so you know. It's a tip I read on Reddit; maybe you'll have some use for it:

Never tell a girl where you’re going or how to dress. Instead, tell her to "dress for a first date with a guy she really likes". Now, pick three places you'd like to go: someplace fun and active (bowling, pool, mini golf, go-kart racing, etc), something romantic and classy (nice restaurant, upscale bar, art gallery exhibition) and something in between (nice bar, coffee shop, comedy club). Now, when you pick her up, let the way she's dressed decide which you’re going to do: If she's wearing something sexy and revealing (dress, high heels, low cut top, etc.) than she wants to go somewhere classy and romantic. If she's sporting some jeans, tennis shoes or flip-flops, and a tee, the bowling ally or pool hall may be a good bet. If she's wearing jeans, high heeled boots, and nice top or blouse, than she's not really jonesing for the super romance treatment, and she put in more effort than mini golf deserves (eighteen holes of mini golf in heels... seriously?), so a comedy club or some place with live music is a good choice. And never, EVER, do a movie on the first date! EDIT: Men: You're going to wear a pair of CLEAN, NEAT jeans, a pressed stylish LONG sleeve button down shirt, nice shoes or boots (try to avoid runners).
Works for ANY occasion!

Best of luck.

and if she's not wearing anything?

Tefral

glasso wrote: »

and if she's not wearing anything?

Dear Diary...

JACKPOT

who what when

mood wrote: »

As I woman I disagree 100%. I wouldn't feel comfortable going on a date unless I knew where we were going. In fact I thin I would cancel if I was left in the dark. Your going on a date not treating a 5 year old child! Also what if the girl thinks 'Oh, we must be going for dinner' so doesn't eat much then you land her in a pub or whatever? What if you take her to see a band she hates? It's just bad advice and show bad manners IMHO. I really hope no guy follows this advice.

Bad manners is the last thing it shows. To me its exciting, creative, fun and different. The one thing i would say though is maybe its a bit much for a first date. An excellent idea for a second date because it shows the guy to be interesting, confident and adventurous- 3 qaulities girls really go for!

Galvasean

Wacker wrote: »

Never tell a girl where you’re going or how to dress. Instead, tell her to "dress for a first date with a guy she really likes".

Am I reading into this too much or is there a contradiction in there?

Ickle Magoo

Galvasean wrote: »

Am I reading into this too much or is there a contradiction in there?

I took it to mean deliberately not being specific ie formal or casual...why she wouldn't be dressing for a date with a guy she likes anyway and has to be told that, is different issue... :pac:

Galvasean

Saying "for a guy you really like" sort of implies formal. Although on the flip side saying "wear whatever you like" sounds very casual... Tricky business this dating business...

Greyfox

Wacker wrote: »

Hi Guys,

I've never tried this myself, just so you know. It's a tip I read on Reddit; maybe you'll have some use for it:

Never tell a girl where you’re going or how to dress. Instead, tell her to "dress for a first date with a guy she really likes". Now, pick three places you'd like to go: someplace fun and active (bowling, pool, mini golf, go-kart racing, etc), something romantic and classy (nice restaurant, upscale bar, art gallery exhibition) and something in between (nice bar, coffee shop, comedy club). Now, when you pick her up, let the way she's dressed decide which you’re going to do: If she's wearing something sexy and revealing (dress, high heels, low cut top, etc.) than she wants to go somewhere classy and romantic. If she's sporting some jeans, tennis shoes or flip-flops, and a tee, the bowling ally or pool hall may be a good bet. If she's wearing jeans, high heeled boots, and nice top or blouse, than she's not really jonesing for the super romance treatment, and she put in more effort than mini golf deserves (eighteen holes of mini golf in heels... seriously?), so a comedy club or some place with live music is a good choice. And never, EVER, do a movie on the first date! EDIT: Men: You're going to wear a pair of CLEAN, NEAT jeans, a pressed stylish LONG sleeve button down shirt, nice shoes or boots (try to avoid runners).
Works for ANY occasion!

Best of luck.

God that really is putting far too much thought into a first date, just bring her for a few drinks in a place that's not packed and plays good music, that way you know you can't go wrong

Ickle Magoo

Galvasean wrote: »

Saying "for a guy you really like" sort of implies formal. Although on the flip side saying "wear whatever you like" sounds very casual... Tricky business this dating business...

I see what you mean. Perhaps it would work better by dropping the "for a guy you really like" altogether...surely it's a given that it's for a guy she likes and she knows it's their first date. Even saying to her that the plan is to create a date around how she dresses if she asks would work quite well as a novel approach...

Nervous Wreck

As with everything in life and love, it's a case of adapting to the situation at hand. Some girls will love this and others won't. It's your job to discern which type the girl in question is before trying something like this on a first date.

Kooli

I like the idea in theory, but I wonder if most girls, not knowing where they are going, would go the 'safe route' and dress not too dressy, not too casually, so you would never use the upmarket restaurant or bowling options, it would always be the middle one.

skelliser

Ive done something similar before back in college when we had no money,it was kinda kinda cheesy but spontaneous.
Basically it was meet me at a certain bus stop. I then brought her out to the promenade by the sea, coffee in a local cafe and then a stroll back into town as the sun went down over galway bay!

It was a great date!

Id do it again. Women may say they dont like this sort of thing but in truth they love a bit of mystery and spontaneity.

mood

Kooli wrote: »

I like the idea in theory, but I wonder if most girls, not knowing where they are going, would go the 'safe route' and dress not too dressy, not too casually, so you would never use the upmarket restaurant or bowling options, it would always be the middle one.

Exactly. That's what I would do I guess.

Also, one girls casual could be another girl dressy so they might not feel dressed for the type of venus the guy chooses based on his interpretation of her clothes.

mood

skelliser wrote: »

Ive done something similar before back in college when we had no money,it was kinda kinda cheesy but spontaneous.
Basically it was meet me at a certain bus stop. I then brought her out to the promenade by the sea, coffee in a local cafe and then a stroll back into town as the sun went down over galway bay!

It was a great date!

Id do it again. Women may say they dont like this sort of thing but in truth they love a bit of mystery and spontaneity.

That sound lovely. But as someone who normally wears heals going out I wouldn't have wanted the long walk that's why I feel you need some idea of where your going or doing.

forest gunner

Interesting thread this.
Ive got a first date this weekend actually and tbh Im not experienced in dating at all. Im playin it safe and just havin a few quiet drinks in a pub.
Im just gonna try get the basics right - washed and shaved, neat but casual clothes, do any buying thats needed and just hope for the best.

I suppose better try and talk too..:rolleyes:

Wacker

forest gunner wrote: »

Interesting thread this.
Ive got a first date this weekend actually and tbh Im not experienced in dating at all. Im playin it safe and just havin a few quiet drinks in a pub.
Im just gonna try get the basics right - washed and shaved, neat but casual clothes, do any buying thats needed and just hope for the best.

I suppose better try and talk too..:rolleyes:

Here's a tip: be sure to have more to talk about than just your job, or lack thereof. Best of luck!

BumbleB

mood wrote: »

That sound lovely. But as someone who normally wears heals going out I wouldn't have wanted the long walk that's why I feel you need some idea of where your going or doing.

Theres always the Piggy back .

Handsome Bob

You know it's weird, I always hear that the cinema is terrible for a date, but I know a woman who all she wants to do is to go to the cinema for a date heh.

P.C.

forest gunner wrote: »

Interesting thread this.
Ive got a first date this weekend actually and tbh Im not experienced in dating at all. Im playin it safe and just havin a few quiet drinks in a pub.
Im just gonna try get the basics right - washed and shaved, neat but casual clothes, do any buying thats needed and just hope for the best.

I suppose better try and talk too..:rolleyes:

Leading questions - that is the way to go on a first date with a girl.

Oh - and don't be late.

RacoonQueen

Good idea but not for a first date, sounds good for a date when you're together a while as a nice surprise.

Vinta81

mood wrote: »

As I woman I disagree 100%. I wouldn't feel comfortable going on a date unless I knew where we were going. In fact I thin I would cancel if I was left in the dark. Your going on a date not treating a 5 year old child! Also what if the girl thinks 'Oh, we must be going for dinner' so doesn't eat much then you land her in a pub or whatever? What if you take her to see a band she hates? It's just bad advice and show bad manners IMHO. I really hope no guy follows this advice.

I like a surprise. Shows his imagination etc...I like structure, but find the sit down, candle lit meal marlarkey on a first date is a bit too much. Gimme a few games of pool, some beer and a laugh and I'm all yours.

r3nu4l

Let's not get personal, people! Thank you.

Dr Galen

Yes....

@ S de V

This thread is meant to be discussing the merits (or otherwise) of the suggestion made in the OP. Your derailing that, to suit your own end, spouting the PUA crapola.

Please don't try derailing the discussion again.

Thanks

DrG

the drifter

This thread has dont nothing but confuse my already cofused head :P

ye people are evil...:P

Jenneke87

Wacker wrote: »

Hi Guys,

I've never tried this myself, just so you know. It's a tip I read on Reddit; maybe you'll have some use for it:

Never tell a girl where you’re going or how to dress. Instead, tell her to "dress for a first date with a guy she really likes". Now, pick three places you'd like to go: someplace fun and active (bowling, pool, mini golf, go-kart racing, etc), something romantic and classy (nice restaurant, upscale bar, art gallery exhibition) and something in between (nice bar, coffee shop, comedy club). Now, when you pick her up, let the way she's dressed decide which you’re going to do: If she's wearing something sexy and revealing (dress, high heels, low cut top, etc.) than she wants to go somewhere classy and romantic. If she's sporting some jeans, tennis shoes or flip-flops, and a tee, the bowling ally or pool hall may be a good bet. If she's wearing jeans, high heeled boots, and nice top or blouse, than she's not really jonesing for the super romance treatment, and she put in more effort than mini golf deserves (eighteen holes of mini golf in heels... seriously?), so a comedy club or some place with live music is a good choice. And never, EVER, do a movie on the first date! EDIT: Men: You're going to wear a pair of CLEAN, NEAT jeans, a pressed stylish LONG sleeve button down shirt, nice shoes or boots (try to avoid runners).
Works for ANY occasion!

Best of luck.

Next time a man asks me out I will show up naked.....I´m very curious as to where he will take me.......:D

Galvasean

Jenneke87 wrote: »

Next time a man asks me out I will show up naked.....I´m very curious as to where he will take me.......:D

Funky town?

Niamho!

Yeah that would definitely depend on the girl. If a bloke told me that i'd panic a bit. I'm the kinda girl who couldn't go to a bar or club looking anything less than dressed up.

Not sure about it really...

Niamho!

Galvasean wrote: »

Funky town?

freaky...thats on FM104 right now. :eek:

banshee_bones

Jenneke87 wrote: »

Next time a man asks me out I will show up naked.....I´m very curious as to where he will take me.......:D

Galvasean wrote: »

Pleasuretown?

FYP

:pac:

Galvasean

Funkytown is meant to be a euphamism for sex. Go on, listen to the song again :eek:

Otis Driftwood

I always think of Towlie when I hear that song.

banshee_bones

Galvasean wrote: »

Funkytown is meant to be a euphamism for sex. Go on, listen to the song again :eek:

yeah yeah I know but I was thinking more along anchorman lines! Couldnt find the clip where Veronica asks Ron to take her to Pleasuretown :pac:

Snowie

mood wrote: »

As I woman I disagree 100%. I wouldn't feel comfortable going on a date unless I knew where we were going. In fact I thin I would cancel if I was left in the dark. Your going on a date not treating a 5 year old child! Also what if the girl thinks 'Oh, we must be going for dinner' so doesn't eat much then you land her in a pub or whatever? What if you take her to see a band she hates? It's just bad advice and show bad manners IMHO. I really hope no guy follows this advice.

I can see your point, but lets face, if your on a date with some one. You wanna make a impresion as a man, to a degree (i feel) thats whats it about and showing who you are! I'm not saying that the date has to be grand gestures(sp bafffels me that word). But its got to be some thing should you booth will like, but giving away all the info do you really want to ruin the suprise? Obvouysly clues are a good.. Its playing a level of cop on and at a same time you no keeping it fun and fresh new, freash what ever word you wanna use...

g'em wrote: »

actually I quite like it - a bit of spontaneity and a surprise could be lots of fun, and if it all goes horribly wrong but you still like the guy then you just say where you would like to go for date number 2. Of course if you don't like him, then meh, you just don't arrange date number 2 at all

Exactly! as long as the dude gives you some hints and use's his brain things can work out quite well.. If your creative it can be quite cheep and still fun .
personally speaking I'd rather meet in the afternoon more stuff to do maybe after words go for a bear but not essential. I think its kinda important for a firest date to be sorta a casual experence not this big anticipated thing that goes, Pete tong. Because people arnt relaxed enough. All the kinda it a date :eek: WTF am I gonna do.Then you end up going to the cinem and to pizza hot, Nice...

Kevin Duffy

Jenneke87 wrote: »

Next time a man asks me out I will show up naked.....I´m very curious as to where he will take me.......:D

I'd say he'll take you a few places.

Will

Khannie wrote: »

It's both wonderful and terribly confusing. Men like formulas. if x then y else z.

Computer science for life yo!

Totally depends on the woman really and what her interests are. If she's interested in art/parks/food then the chester beatty library is a win win as it's a great art museum/library with a smashing restaurant and on the grounds of dublin castle which is also quite beautiful with a lovely little known park there too. Something for everyone there. To be honest the chester beatty library is pretty much awesome.

Anywho there's my tip for the day!

chappy

I really think your all completely over thinking the first date thing...It shouldn't be such a stressful situation...ITS MEANT TO BE FUN!!!!

Zascar

A man should never let the woman make the decisions or even give her a choice. You're the man, it's your job to take control and show the woman a fun and interesting night where you can get to know eachother and have fun in a relaxed environment. I never ever tell a girl where I'm taking her, if you make it a surprise she gets excited about it and appreciates the effort. I find a comedy club is a great first date - you'll almost always have a good laugh and there are plenty of breaks etc to chat and get to know eachother, but not too much so if she's really boring and uninteresting you don't get stuck having to make conversation all night

chappy

Zascar wrote: »

A man should never let the woman make the decisions or even give her a choice. You're the man, it's your job to take control and show the woman a fun and interesting night where you can get to know eachother and have fun in a relaxed environment. I never ever tell a girl where I'm taking her, if you make it a surprise she gets excited about it and appreciates the effort. I find a comedy club is a great first date - you'll almost always have a good laugh and there are plenty of breaks etc to chat and get to know eachother, but not too much so if she's really boring and uninteresting you don't get stuck having to make conversation all night

Please tell me your taking the piss with the start of that post?

mikom

http://www.artofseductions.com/the-best-first-date-advice-for-men/

Excuse me while I puke.

mood

Zascar wrote: »

A man should never let the woman make the decisions or even give her a choice. You're the man, it's your job to take control and show the woman a fun and interesting night where you can get to know eachother and have fun in a relaxed environment. I never ever tell a girl where I'm taking her, if you make it a surprise she gets excited about it and appreciates the effort. I find a comedy club is a great first date - you'll almost always have a good laugh and there are plenty of breaks etc to chat and get to know eachother, but not too much so if she's really boring and uninteresting you don't get stuck having to make conversation all night

If you think not 'letting' a woman make a decision or even give her a choice and think that this makes you more of a 'man' you are very sadly mistaking.

Galvasean

I went to a movie for a first date once... Que a relationship forming. Go figure.

mikom

Galvasean wrote: »

I went to a movie for a first date once... Que a relationship forming. Go figure.

Same here...... our current 7 year one.
Not with Galvasean, of course.