What to do?

LegacyUser

I've been friends with this guy for a year. We're in different counties but text each other all the time. Two weeks ago, his friends came down for a visit without him. I ended up with one of his friends(who he lives with!)but the guy said he wouldn't say anything and asked me not to say anything because he was going out with a girl who's also a friend of the guys.

My problem is that I've texted the guy I've been friends with, saying I met his friends, but he hasn't texted back. Did the guy tell him? Is he disappointed in me? I don't want him to find out and think bad of me for being with his friend? Any advice on what I should do would be appreciated!

Thanks.

pwd

Now, you know he wouldn't text you the whole time from a different country if he wasn't into you. You went off with his dodgy friend, and then kept it secret from him, so his dodgy friend could tell him. Is he disappointed in you? - yes. What should you do? - grow the fvck up.

edit: oh right nvm -.-

m@cc@

pwd wrote: »

Now, you know he wouldn't text you the whole time from a different country if he wasn't into you. You went off with his dodgy friend, and then kept it secret from him, so his dodgy friend could tell him. Is he disappointed in you? - yes. What should you do? - grow the fvck up.

The OP said county.

OP, have either of you confided your feelings with each other? Has it always been a plutonic relationship?

Taltos

OP I do not see anything from your post indicating a relationship beyond friendship with this guy?

Can you clarify - is this a friendship or a relationship that is under pressure since you went off with his friend?

dublingal80

confused20 wrote: »

I've been friends with this guy for a year. We're in different counties but text each other all the time. Two weeks ago, his friends came down for a visit without him. I ended up with one of his friends(who he lives with!)but the guy said he wouldn't say anything and asked me not to say anything because he was going out with a girl who's also a friend of the guys.

My problem is that I've texted the guy I've been friends with, saying I met his friends, but he hasn't texted back. Did the guy tell him? Is he disappointed in me? I don't want him to find out and think bad of me for being with his friend? Any advice on what I should do would be appreciated!

Thanks.

if you are just friends... FRIENDS... you can do what ever you want with anyone you want to. You are a grown woman who can make her own decisions over who you want to kiss and who you dont

God knows why he hasnt texted you back or whatever but he doesnt have a reason to be angry at you for kissing a friend of his when you's are just friends. If I was you, id leave it be for a few more days, see if he gets in touch and if he doesnt I'd give him a call, just for a general chat and if he is all weird then bring it up

LegacyUser

m@cc@ wrote: »

The OP said county.

OP, have either of you confided your feelings with each other? Has it always been a plutonic relationship?

No it's just a plutonic relationship.
Whenever I text him he always texts back, I'm just wondering is he upset with me for being with his friend?

LegacyUser

Taltos wrote: »

OP I do not see anything from your post indicating a relationship beyond friendship with this guy?

Can you clarify - is this a friendship or a relationship that is under pressure since you went off with his friend?

It's a friendship and it always has been.

dublingal80

well then im sure he isnt angry with you for kissing his friend. he doesnt have a reason to if you are friends

he could have other stuff going on in his life... hence give him a few days and then call him, instead of texting him, making sure he is ok

Taltos

confused20 wrote: »

It's a friendship and it always has been.

If that is all it is - and all that you and he want it to be - then relax.
It is important you just behave normally. You did nothing wrong in this case.

If he is upset with you - then you have to ask - was he lying to you - does he harbour some feelings that he has hidden - and if so why? Or is it something more to do with his mate.

However - if you are just friends - then really it is none of his business.

Riskymove

Taltos wrote: »

. You did nothing wrong in this case.


However - if you are just friends - then really it is none of his business.

i disagree ...the OP has 'been with' a friends partner...why would he not be upset if he found out

is he being a friend to the other girl if he ignores such things?

Taltos

Riskymove wrote: »

i disagree ...the OP has 'been with' a friends partner...why would he not be upset if he found out

is he being a friend to the other girl if he ignores such things?

Oh crap - I forgot about that....
That would explain alot - but only if the OP knew he was cheating on his GF.
If you did know then well, enough said...

LegacyUser

OP how would you feel if the situation was reversed, ie. if you found out that he met your friends and was with one of them???

Would you be annoyed or would you not care?

dublingal80

Pinkypink wrote: »

OP how would you feel if the situation was reversed, ie. if you found out that he met your friends and was with one of them???

Would you be annoyed or would you not care?

i think the only reason either one of them would be upset or angry is if one had feelings for the other.

dublingal80

Riskymove wrote: »

i disagree ...the OP has 'been with' a friends partner...why would he not be upset if he found out

is he being a friend to the other girl if he ignores such things?

im confused. I thought the op was with the guys friend. the two lads live together or lived together..

dublingal80

oh yeah.... did you know this guy had a girlfriend????

but then again, we all make mistakes... why stop talking to you when its the guys friend who cheated on his girlfriend (doesnt make you an angel either though)

i just think its weird if this is the actual reason why he hasnt been in touch.... because you kissed one of his friends, that has a girlfriend.
i think there is something else going on with him that has him occupied

Riskymove

dublingal80 wrote: »

im confused. I thought the op was with the guys friend. the two lads live together or lived together..

my reading of it:

the OP is friends with Lad A

The OP was with Lad B .......Lad B is already going out with Girl C

BOTH Lad B and Girl C are friends of Lad A

dublingal80

oh yeah.... sorry! i totally didnt read that line.

if i was the op id just pick up the phone and call him and take it from there

no point in wondering when you can find out very easily whats going on

LegacyUser

Pinkypink wrote: »

OP how would you feel if the situation was reversed, ie. if you found out that he met your friends and was with one of them???

Would you be annoyed or would you not care?

I would probably be more annoyed with my friend then with him.

dublingal80

you wouldnt be more annoyed with your guy friend for cheating on his girlfiren with your galpal? why??

did you know the guy had a girlfriend/

LegacyUser

dublingal80 wrote: »

you wouldnt be more annoyed with your guy friend for cheating on his girlfiren with your galpal? why??

did you know the guy had a girlfriend/

no he didn't tell me till he sent me a message saying he had a girlfriend and not to tell anyone we were together.

dublingal80

did you decide what to do?

KasandraRose

Riskymove wrote: »

my reading of it:

the OP is friends with Lad A

The OP was with Lad B .......Lad B is already going out with Girl C

BOTH Lad B and Girl C are friends of Lad A

Riskymove - that is hysterical!!! I love it!

LegacyUser

OP here,

I texted my friend a couple of days ago and still haven't heard anything.
Having had time to think about it, I think I might have feelings for my friend!?