"Bullying at home on rise"

iptba

I thought this was interesting:

http://www.irishtimes.com/newspaper/frontpage/2010/0614/1224272441931.html

Bullying at home on rise as recession hits relationships

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He said the loss of the breadwinner role had also seriously affected some families. The breadwinner could feel inadequate because of the change in circumstances and might lash out, while the dependent spouse could be very critical of the breadwinner for failing to support the family financially.

“Bullying in the home is not gender related,” he said. “Many men are being bullied in the home. They’ve suddenly found themselves under the feet of their wives. They are not able to make money like they did in the past and they have been ‘de-roled’ as a breadwinner.”

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Bullying might be a better word than "emotional abuse" which I have heard used in some circumstances e.g. when talking about domestic violence.

Perhaps more men would "own up" to being bullied rather than have a term like "domestic violence" associated with it - similarly they might be more likely to contact an organisation that deals with bullying rather than one that deals "domestic violence".

And bigger problems and violence might be prevented?

CDfm

Fr Byrne said one bullying case he had encountered ended in suicide. In another case of bullying in the home, the victim developed a drink problem. “Researchers like ourselves and others believe that 14 to 20 per cent of all suicides are associated with bullying,” he said

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So its a killer.

Domestic abuse/violence should not be defined by gender, age or orientation. It shouldnt demean anyone to admit that it happens as it isnt about the victim but a problem the perpetrator has.

Persistant bullying can cause depression.

limklad

It not just bullying of the bread winner, The same ones would bully their kids too. It depends on the emotional needy the bulling partner is. If the kids do not give them enough attention or perceived to be ignoring by their child, then they will bully their own child.

Often when they do not have money from the bread winner they will use the kids to bully the other partner by degrading the other partner in front of the kids.

CDfm

some people are just plain nasty and have no business being married and having kids