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Who should make the first move

  • 13-06-2010 11:25pm
    #1
    FewToLose
    Closed Accounts Posts: 122 ✭✭


    As a girl I would often feel embarrassed to make the first move. I am wondering whether or not this is frowned upon? I always thought it was set in stone that the guy makes the first move but it doesn't seem to be the case anymore?!


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    it depends on what you define 'first move'.

    surveys showed that it's indeed most of the time, females give out subtle signals to males to invite them to go to them.

    eye contacts, smiles, body touches...

    but still, it's the guys who go to the girls instead of the girls go to the guys.

    be a friend with the guy you like would be a nice move. and also give the relationship a strong base. and if he fancies you, he will gather the courage needed to tell you.


  • #3
    Contessa Raven
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 642 ✭✭✭Contessa Raven


    Hi OP,

    These days it's common for women to make the first move and there is nothing wrong with that.

    I know women who have no problem with asking guys out and I have friends who would be mortified at the thought. There's no right or wrong.

    Some guys like the chase of getting a girl to go out with him and similarly some women like the same. Then of course there are shy men who are too nervous about chatting girls up. It's all about what you are comfortable doing.

    Personally I couldn't ask someone out unless I knew for definite that they reciprocated my feelings. But I have no problem letting people know I'm interested.

    Different strokes for different folks and all that!

    CR


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