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maryqwerty

i know im posting in after hours, but id really appreciate some serious answers on this subject. my granny who is 97 is in hospital and could die any minute. she was sent in last night with a heart problem.
i have a holiday planned to go to china for a month with a few friends, leaving dublin on wednesday. i obviously dont want to miss this holiday or change my flights etc but what would my family think if i missed her funeral? is it a big no no or would people be inclined to think ''u have to go on your holiday''

mink_man

in before the granny di.........ah whatever your family thinks sure?

Kiera

Ask your family what you should do.

snuggles09

unless you are very close to her I wouldnt postpone the holiday to be honest..you'd be of no benefit to anyone if you stayed and you'd end up resenting your family more than likely if forced to stay

Mick Daly

Of course you have to go on holiday. She's only dying.

Sure you'll meet her again in the afterlife. Go ahead and enjoy your holiday. Seriously.

IBTL

Such a flippin' question to ask.

alwaysadub

Well,i know personally if it was my family,they would want me to go on the holiday as presumably,you are going to lose a lot of money cancelling so late.

The only person who'll know what your family might think is you.

Mick Daly

There's no point in asking uswhat you should do. How would you feel if she's dead when you come back? That is the question.

RoadKillTs

Shar ya can go to China anythime. Your poor Granny wont be around for much longer by the sounds of it.

I would stay at home if I was you. My Granny died a while back and I regret not spending more time with her. I was too busy doing yolks (good times though)

edellc

maryqwerty wrote: »

i know im posting in after hours, but id really appreciate some serious answers on this subject. my granny who is 97 is in hospital and could die any minute. she was sent in last night with a heart problem.
i have a holiday planned to go to china for a month with a few friends, leaving dublin on wednesday. i obviously dont want to miss this holiday or change my flights etc but what would my family think if i missed her funeral? is it a big no no or would people be inclined to think ''u have to go on your holiday''

a friend of mine when to china and while there his mother passed away and he found it impossible to get home quickly so i guess you have to ask yourself how much you love your granny???? also what would she like you to do? i think once you answer these question in your own head then who cares what others think if you made peace with your answer then thats all that matters either way nobody can really answer the question for you

FearDark

maryqwerty wrote: »

i know im posting in after hours, but id really appreciate some serious answers on this subject. my granny who is 97 is in hospital and could die any minute. she was sent in last night with a heart problem.
i have a holiday planned to go to china for a month with a few friends, leaving dublin on wednesday. i obviously dont want to miss this holiday or change my flights etc but what would my family think if i missed her funeral? is it a big no no or would people be inclined to think ''u have to go on your holiday''

You came to the right place anyway.

Donkey Oaty

Go, go, go.

dlofnep

You make your own decisions. You're just going to scour this thread for posts that say "**** it, go to China" anyways.

I wouldn't miss the funeral of any of my close relatives. That's just me.

Donkey Oaty

dlofnep wrote: »

I wouldn't miss the funeral of any of my close relatives. That's just me.

That wasn't the point. The granny's still alive.

dlofnep

Donkey Oaty wrote: »

That wasn't the point. The granny's still alive.

Yes, but the OP said she could die at any minute. Going on holiday to China would see him quite possibly miss it. I'm not judging him. People deal with death in different ways.

biko

This really is better in Personal Issues.
Good luck OP.