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matching bridesmaids to groomsmen

  • 10-06-2010 2:27pm
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 74 ✭✭


    ok im getting married next year and have 3 best friends id like to do bridesmaid, thats great but the hubby 2b only has one best man and pushing it one groomsman, i didnt think it mattered but am being told by everyone that you have to have the same numbers bridesmaids and groomsmen?? is this the case?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,072 ✭✭✭SeekUp


    bubbles747 wrote: »
    ok im getting married next year and have 3 best friends id like to do bridesmaid, thats great but the hubby 2b only has one best man and pushing it one groomsman, i didnt think it mattered but am being told by everyone that you have to have the same numbers bridesmaids and groomsmen?? is this the case?

    Nope, not at all. You can have as many or as few as you'd like on either side. I think a lot of people are used to having things a certain way, and never think about doing things differently. Doesn't really make sense to ask people to be in the wedding just to "fill in the ranks," so to speak, does it?!

    You guys include whomever you want . . . you're absolutely right in thinking that it doesn't matter one bit.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 74 ✭✭bubbles747


    thanks! i really didnt go asking people just to fill in a space! so one best man will do for himself and 3 bridesmaids for me.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68,190 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    If you're going for a traditional wedding, you just have to think about a couple of extra things - such as the order of people walking back down the aisle, second dances and so forth, but it's not important and it's not something that anyone will even comment on, on the day.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,423 ✭✭✭tinkerbell


    Oh so you don't actually need to match up then? That's great actually!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,933 ✭✭✭H8GHOTI


    I'd actually never even thought about this before. Didn't even enter my mind until I read this thread. In saying that I am a male & never had any interest in weddings (besides my own) so that probably explains that. :pac:
    Anyway, I was planning on just having a bestman & no groomsmen. What do they even do :confused:
    I couldn't care less how many bridesmaids there will be. I think she's going to have 2 or 3. Don't see a problem with it tbh. Do whatever ye want yourselves.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 74 ✭✭bubbles747


    i cant see any reason myself for there to be matching numbers, just apart from walking out of the church for somone to walk out with.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47 leap


    My brother had four groomsmen (incl best man) and his wife had two bridesmaids. Cause that was the number of brothers and sisters they had between them. It was lovely.

    I remember one of the brides friends commented after, that she couldnt believe that anyone would even consider not matching the numbers, but she was the only one.

    Do what you like and enjoy the day!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 636 ✭✭✭Heineken Helen


    leap wrote: »

    Do what you like and enjoy the day!

    Yep, that's it. We may not even go with matching colours, never mind matching numbers :eek: the shock of it all :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 74 ✭✭bubbles747


    i know im still so surprised how people badly people take it when you dont do whats expected, im having a terrible time trying to explain this not matching numbers to certain family members, they just cannot understand it but im not asking people just to fill in numbers. MIL to be even suggested that she would ask people she knows to fill in the places:mad:!
    what goods a wedding if u cant have it your own way?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 636 ✭✭✭Heineken Helen


    bubbles747 wrote: »
    i know im still so surprised how people badly people take it when you dont do whats expected, im having a terrible time trying to explain this not matching numbers to certain family members, they just cannot understand it but im not asking people just to fill in numbers. MIL to be even suggested that she would ask people she knows to fill in the places:mad:!
    what goods a wedding if u cant have it your own way?

    Agreed... I don't mind doing things that other people want... unless it's something I don't want or see the point of. Time to do some feet stamping... if ya can't do it now, well you'll never be able to.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41 suzieled


    Maybe its becuase Im a Libra, but we will be having the same amount of bridesmaid and groomsmen at our wedding. It would look wrong to me any other way. The photos I have looked at from friends and from photographer`s portfolio`s, they look great when everyone is paired off and its also important for the dancing later on as I wouldnt want someone to be always left out at the start for the bridal party dances. Not what I would like personally.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,094 ✭✭✭The Cool


    Don't worry about it, if he only has his best man and no other groomsmen, then he and your maid of honour/chief bridesmaid can be paired together for all those traditional things.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 266 ✭✭Bookkeeper09


    I was at a wedding on Saturday just gone and there was 1 Bestman and 4 bridesmaids!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 636 ✭✭✭Heineken Helen


    I was at a wedding on Saturday just gone and there was 1 Bestman and 4 bridesmaids!

    Bet he really enjoyed himself :p


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