Oversensitive?

LegacyUser

Hey guys, I got myself into a situation and I need your povs. So, I meet a guy on msn last year and we got to talking. Basically, got taken up with it(recluse almost) ,fell in "lust",talked every minute and meet him after three/four months of intense flirting/convo etc. So, we meet. My pov we got on great. He ditched me right after.Now, I didnt do anything "you wouldnt do". Went as far as second base I guess. But my trouble is ,WHY the heck I was upset after!? After 1 poxy meeting,. Why the hell was I so upset!? Looking back, I half die inside that I let a stranger "in" so easily. Im not heartbroken or anything but why do I think about it all the time? There are people who dont get phased by rejection and all, but why am I?
Another thing is, I feel kinda "tainted". Is that weird? I feel effected? Like, I trusted him and let him kiss me (and so on), and I dont exactly have the best love record, but why did this one thing effect me? Im trying to rebuild me confidence and look after myself now. But, what was that emotional rollercoaster about?!!

Thanks in advance.

peasant

simple answer ....virtual reality vs real reality

When you meet someone online / on the phone / through letters only, a large part of their personality stays hidden from you and gets filled in by your mind/phantasy/wishful thinking.

The normal human tendency is then to elevate that other person to a level that they may not deserve ..meeting them face to face then and being disappointed by what turns out to be a run of the mill bastard/bitch hurts all the more because you had built up such high expectations.

It's normal, almost everybody does it / would do it under similar circumstances ...file under experience and move on.

LegacyUser

Im just worried its having a effect on how i deal with relationships....