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Confusing Cuckolding Fantasy

  • 05-06-2010 8:54am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    This is really weird thing for me to discuss but I need some opinons to clear my head.
    I am a very jealous person. I hate when my girlfriend is even talking to other guys in nightclubs. And yet, whenever I am masterbating I really seem to get off to the idea of her ****ing other men. This really has me confused, because I love her and never want her to be with another man. I have read up on cuckolding fetishes and to be honest I dont think it applies here because I am a very alpha male. So why do I seem to get off on the idea of her ****ing another man? I read that there is something called sperm competition where a man gets off on ****ing a women after he knows shes been with another man as the man wants to ensure his sperm wins. I think this might apply here as when I am ****ing her sometimes I like to fantasize that she has just ****ed another guy and I seem to **** her faster and harder. I just feel really odd. Surely it cant be normal in a relationship if I get off on the idea of her ****ing other men? I am actually terrified that one day I will ask if she wants to and then instantly regret it. Like I never EVER want her to **** another man but the thought is still so sexy for me. I am really confused, opinions?


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  • #2
    finbarrk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,526 ✭✭✭finbarrk


    Kinda confused myself now.


  • #3
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    It depends on what you consider normal.
    Cuckolding as a fetish is with the range of what is considered the normal range of human sexuality, yes it's not commonly considered that and but there are people who live thier lives in that way with partner who are happy to do so.
    There are swinging and cuckolding communities in this country.

    So it is unusual but not really, you just need to find people for whom this is the norm and figure out what you want in your life. For a lot of people and couples such Fantasies remain just that with them talking about it to turn each other on.
    There are also plenty of ertotic fiction on the topic and writing such fictions yourself is a good way to explore your own sexuality.


  • #4
    Motley Crue
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,382 ✭✭✭Motley Crue


    OP, you seem to be fantasying about what you don't want, which actually sounds perfectly normal since the things that turn us on sub consciously are usually the things we consciously avoid


  • #5
    LighterGuy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭LighterGuy


    Op... ask yourself this.

    Is it really the thought of watching her have sex with another man? ... or is it the aspect that she would be getting pleasure that turns you on?

    I heard about this before. Thats why you are getting turned on by this fantasy. It isnt because of some other guy. Watching her have pleasure is what turns you on. Like in all relationships - we get turned on when we see our OH be pleasured. Oh course usually by ourselves :P

    Subliminally, in some cases its cause the husband/bf feels he cant statisify his OH as much as he wants too.

    From the sounds of it OP - you aint into the other doing guy your girlfriend thing. You just want to see her pleasured so much. Thats what you're really thinking. Thats what you want.


  • #6
    fungun
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,120 ✭✭✭fungun


    Sorry for being 'blunt' here but when it turns you on do you only just imagine her and another 'cock' so to speak? (as opposed to an actual man)

    If so then it sounds like you like the idea but would hate the reality


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi there,

    I dont think it is that strange, I think we all have some strange fantasies, but most of us dont act of them!!! As you said you love your girl, and would hate her to cheat, so dont see it as bad...

    I am girl, and I tend to use fantansy a lot in my sex life, be that with my partner or alone...I have often thought of my bf F****** another female, and me watching, and it really turns me on...and I told him, and he was cool with it....and when I watch porn I love to watch females...but have no desire to be with a women...

    really we all have our fantasy world...most of us would never tell anyone what we think about...so dont worry....as long as you love your partner and she can turn you on, then its healthly enough..
    cuckold12 wrote: »
    This is really weird thing for me to discuss but I need some opinons to clear my head.
    I am a very jealous person. I hate when my girlfriend is even talking to other guys in nightclubs. And yet, whenever I am masterbating I really seem to get off to the idea of her ****ing other men. This really has me confused, because I love her and never want her to be with another man. I have read up on cuckolding fetishes and to be honest I dont think it applies here because I am a very alpha male. So why do I seem to get off on the idea of her ****ing another man? I read that there is something called sperm competition where a man gets off on ****ing a women after he knows shes been with another man as the man wants to ensure his sperm wins. I think this might apply here as when I am ****ing her sometimes I like to fantasize that she has just ****ed another guy and I seem to **** her faster and harder. I just feel really odd. Surely it cant be normal in a relationship if I get off on the idea of her ****ing other men? I am actually terrified that one day I will ask if she wants to and then instantly regret it. Like I never EVER want her to **** another man but the thought is still so sexy for me. I am really confused, opinions?


  • #8
    Wagon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    Put it to morbid curiousity mate. As someone said above, are you imagining her with another man or a knob floating in mid air?

    Next time you see a bloke, image him with your missus. If you feel like punching him or something nearby, there's your answer.


  • #9
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    LighterGuy wrote: »
    Op... ask yourself this.

    Is it really the thought of watching her have sex with another man? ... or is it the aspect that she would be getting pleasure that turns you on?

    I heard about this before. Thats why you are getting turned on by this fantasy. It isnt because of some other guy. Watching her have pleasure is what turns you on. Like in all relationships - we get turned on when we see our OH be pleasured. Oh course usually by ourselves :P

    Subliminally, in some cases its cause the husband/bf feels he cant statisify his OH as much as he wants too.

    From the sounds of it OP - you aint into the other doing guy your girlfriend thing. You just want to see her pleasured so much. Thats what you're really thinking. Thats what you want.


    +1

    From first hand personal experience its more the pleasure your girlfriend is getting than her being with another guy!!! My ex and I tried swinging and neither liked it too much whereas when he fantasised about it it really turned my ex on, you love pleasuring your girlfriend and want to see her being pleasured as much as possible!!! Relax!


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