what to do?

LegacyUser

hi,
im a regular poster so im going unregd for this.

basically i am writing as i am becoming increasingly worried about my sisters behaviour.
we arent on good terms at the moment due to a series of events which i wont get into however she is completely ignorant towards her actions and behaviour and as a result this has seen her alienate herself from all of my family and she has no friends.

this has happened over a few years but recently things have taken escalated and to be honest despite my dislike of her (due to her behaviour) i am beginning to worry in case she does something drastic. she would cause a row over the smallest thing (for example ignoring me or someone else in the family if we asked her to clean up after herself) and she would continue by adding snide, condescending remarks and basically being a bítch for no reason. she constantly would give out about her "friends", other people, things any of us did, etc and did whatever she could to get her way. also, she would be absoutely horrible to all of us in the house, and outside she would be very false to other people (to be honest it was blatantly obvious too).

to add to this, she has caused my parents a horrendous amount of grief, they have done everything for her and given her everything throughout her life and even went so far to put my parents thousands of euro into debt and still behaved like she was completely ungrateful.

years later she is married with two very young children, her OH and his family have been brainwashed into thinking that all of our family are horrible people and this has broken my parent's hearts as she continues with this false facade however her appearance has changed dramatically over the last few months, she has gained an alarming amount of weight and has aged about ten years, she hasn't maintained her appearance at all which is something she would've normally been obsessed with and hasn't spoken to any of us in months although she has been in the area to give the impression to the OH's family that she has been in contact with us regularly. also, her last contact was an e-mail to my parents with a list of things throughout her life which she blames them for. also, i think that she is really strarting to show her true colours to her OH, and i genuinely feel bad for him having her for a life sentence, despite all of what he has been lead to believe.

to be honest i'm worried about what she's going to do next, i am scared that she might end off taking her own life, her OH and how this could effect her children. has anybody else experienced/seen this type of behaviour?

Kevster

To deal with a person like her, the trick is to actually NOT deal with her in the first place. I have no doubt that she's getting kicks out of demeaning you and your family, but what makes it better for her is the fact that she knows how hurt you are all feeling. I suggest not bothering with her anymore, as cold as that sounds. If she has never shown any sign of changing previously, then what does that say about the future? Your parents should not offer her any support whatsoever if she is intent on treating them in this way.

Kevin