Secret Admirer

LegacyUser

Ladies,

How would you feel if you had a secret admirer?

There is a girl I like and im thinking of sending her flowers and maybe few notes, all anonymously, and finally a note asking her to dinner in some fancy restaurant.

Would you go to the dinner or avoid it cause it could be some weirdo?

Victor

Does she know you exist?

Kiera

There is no way on this planet i would meet someone I didnt know a single thing about.

nicegirl

someoneelse5 wrote: »

Ladies,

How would you feel if you had a secret admirer?

There is a girl I like and im thinking of sending her flowers and maybe few notes, all anonymously, and finally a note asking her to dinner in some fancy restaurant.

Would you go to the dinner or avoid it cause it could be some weirdo?

If you know each other quite well, and believe she might like you, then go for it! That would be so romantic!
If she dosn't know you exist, or who you are, then it might be a bit wierd for the girl!

porschespeedst

someoneelse5 wrote: »

Ladies,

How would you feel if you had a secret admirer?

There is a girl I like and im thinking of sending her flowers and maybe few notes, all anonymously, and finally a note asking her to dinner in some fancy restaurant.

Would you go to the dinner or avoid it cause it could be some weirdo?

I am a bloke, but will answer anyway.

There's a fine line between wooing and stalkerishness. Assuming it's someone you see every day, or even now and again - be it on the bus, at work, or social situations - are you not better off just engaging her in conversation, as a starting point?

seenitall

OP, no.

I appreciate you think that your idea is nice and romantic, but outside of rom-coms, it is weird, stalkerish and creepy. Just, NO!!!

Find some other way to approach this girl with your intentions, and think along the lines of more DIRECT.

(I can only talk from my own experience, as I was once recepient of anonymously-sent flowers, and the gesture succeeded only in creeping me out and getting angry with the person who - I am supposing - sent them, a stalkerish ex. Trust me, don't go there.)

LegacyUser

presumably the note asking her to the restaurant would have your name at the end and you wouldn't be expecting her to turn up to find out who you were? because that would be pretty creepy to be honest, also fancy restaurants don't usually make for good first dates in my humble opinion, wayyyy to formal.

While sending flowers, notes etc is romantic in theory, in reality i'd be quite creeped out, for all the poor girl knows it could be "the creepy 72 year old from down the road"

If you know her then sending a bunch of flowers with a note, and your name & number at the end is cute. If she doesn't have an iota who you are then its not a good idea!

vicecreamsundae

while a one-off bunch of flowers or sweet note might surprise and flatter me, a series of them and especially an invitition to meet up would creep me out.
it's just a bit risky. if she figures out it's you and actually likes you, then she might like it, but if she cant figure out who it is, or figures out it's you but just doesnt like you back it could be super uncomfortable for her, and i wouldnt do it if i were you.
she could assume its from somebody else in particular and it could really freak her out.

whether she's a friend/girl you see on the bus/whatever... i think you're better off just handing her a bunch of flowers in person than sending her anything anonymously.