sex buddy

LegacyUser

help !!!!
Iv been meeting up with this guy for two months,he only texts me once a week and every time we meet up he expects sex. I feel like such a fool giving him sex and I feel so depressed with myself when it happens. Do you think I should tell him how i feel or if he texts again should I just ignore him ???

Unique User Name

Hey. Being in a situation like this is going to seriously damage your self esteem. Why are you still going through with it if it's making you so uncomfortable? It's really up to you how to end it but maybe a call to say that you do want to do it anymore? Short and simple. It's always a difficult situation having a sex buddy and becomes even more complicated if one person starts to have feelings. I know I certainly couldn't do it.

ted1

sounds like he is married or has a girl friend. If i were you i'd just cut all ties.

LegacyUser

jjklm wrote: »

help !!!!
Iv been meeting up with this guy for two months,he only texts me once a week and every time we meet up he expects sex. I feel like such a fool giving him sex and I feel so depressed with myself when it happens. Do you think I should tell him how i feel or if he texts again should I just ignore him ???

Why would you ignore him ? You meet this guy regularly and have sex with him. I think the descent think to do would be to tell him you don't want to see him anymore. You can explain your reasons why if you want. But just ignoring someone is incredibly rude and cowardly, no matter what the circumstances. Having the courage to tell him you no longer want to see him will make you feel better and it's the decent thing to do.

Denerick

Stop meeting up with and having sex with a man you don't know. Problem solved.

whatsamsn

Op,
"Actions speak louder than words" : Lets look at the facts:

The guy texts you once a week and only texts when he wants sex. That says he doesnt care about you. You are a booty call. He is using you. Its not like you have both agreed "fun only" ... There is no friendship or potential of it going anywhere here. He only texts you when he wants the one thing after all.

and as ted1 said he could have a gf or even married. I'd agree. I know you have no information to think so ... but lets look at it from the outside looking in. He texts a girl once a week and only for one thing. I would keep him having someone else on board.


But lets look at the most important aspect here. From the words you posted you are feeling used. You said you are feeling depressed after it happens. There is a reason for that.

LegacyUser

whatsamsn wrote: »

I would keep him having someone else on board.

Huh?

krudler

jjklm wrote: »

help !!!!
Iv been meeting up with this guy for two months,he only texts me once a week and every time we meet up he expects sex. I feel like such a fool giving him sex and I feel so depressed with myself when it happens. Do you think I should tell him how i feel or if he texts again should I just ignore him ???

So stop, problem solved.

shellyboo

jjklm wrote: »

I feel like such a fool giving him sex and I feel so depressed with myself when it happens.

It doesn't "happen". You actively respond to his texts, meet up with him, and have sex with him. There are about a million stages in the process where you could stop it. So do.

KildareCross

i done this years ago when i was a "young one". It will be hard for you to stop but you need to for your own good. He is just using you and the longer you keep going to him the longer he will use you. Seems a bit harsh but its the truth, get away from him before he damages your self esteem more. I would think you probably know this yourself or you would not be posting. Let somone who deserves you and cares be there not him. Its just sex