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She doesn't want to see me again...

  • 30-05-2010 10:04am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm terribly confused.
    So there's a girl...I spent a day with her last July (quite a while I know.)
    It was a little awkward spending the whole day with her, though that was kinda to be expected. Her friend was there also, so that kinda made it hard to have a good conversation with her. Nonetheless, towards the end of the day I thought things were getting quite comfortable. Or so I thought.
    So anyway since then we've been chatting...and getting on well.
    So last night, I told her what I think of her...which is quite alot.
    I said I'd like to see her again. (And here's the problem)
    She said I obviously care about her and she felt the same, but in a "different way". Essentially, she doesn't want to see me again, because she doesn't want to go through the awkwardness...
    She'd like to keep talking to me though, and so would I. We'll leave it off for a few days now to think it over...but it just seems like an overreaction on her part...I didn't get a second of sleep last night because of this. I think we have so much potential.
    Thanks for reading. I recognise we might have to stop talking...which is crazy but it might be necessary. At the moment I'm just confused.
    I've been in more hopeless situations before...but this hurts alot. Anyway thanks for reading...I know I'll probably get suggestions to cut off contact, but that'd make it harder to get over, it's just the way I am.


Comments

  • #2
    rsta
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,261 ✭✭✭rsta


    Its been almost a year?

    Sounds like she just isn't interested. I'm sorry, but I think I'd say just leave it.


  • #3
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    veryconfused... wrote: »
    So last night, I told her what I think of her...which is quite alot.
    I said I'd like to see her again. (And here's the problem)
    She said I obviously care about her and she felt the same, but in a "different way". Essentially, she doesn't want to see me again, because she doesn't want to go through the awkwardness...
    She'd like to keep talking to me though, and so would I. We'll leave it off for a few days now to think it over...but it just seems like an overreaction on her part...I didn't get a second of sleep last night because of this. I think we have so much potential.

    I don't want to be harsh but she is quite clearly not interested and she has told you honestly face-to-face that she is not. You have to respect her decision.

    And in this instance you would most very definitely be better off cutting contact as it seems obvious that you would in fact be harbouring hope of something happening between the two of you when that doesn't seem likely to happen at all.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    veryconfused... wrote: »
    I'm terribly confused.
    So there's a girl...I spent a day with her last July (quite a while I know.)
    It was a little awkward spending the whole day with her, though that was kinda to be expected. Her friend was there also, so that kinda made it hard to have a good conversation with her. Nonetheless, towards the end of the day I thought things were getting quite comfortable. Or so I thought.
    So anyway since then we've been chatting...and getting on well.
    So last night, I told her what I think of her...which is quite alot.
    I said I'd like to see her again. (And here's the problem)
    She said I obviously care about her and she felt the same, but in a "different way". Essentially, she doesn't want to see me again, because she doesn't want to go through the awkwardness...
    She'd like to keep talking to me though, and so would I. We'll leave it off for a few days now to think it over...but it just seems like an overreaction on her part...I didn't get a second of sleep last night because of this. I think we have so much potential.
    Thanks for reading. I recognise we might have to stop talking...which is crazy but it might be necessary. At the moment I'm just confused.
    I've been in more hopeless situations before...but this hurts alot. Anyway thanks for reading...I know I'll probably get suggestions to cut off contact, but that'd make it harder to get over, it's just the way I am.

    you spent a day with her last July, and have been talking since. Have you met up since then or just been talking? She said that she cared about you as well but in a "different way", would you be able to clarify this, as it dosn't make sense if she dosn't want to see you again, even though she cares about you. It would enable us to help you more perhaps


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