Ex issues?!

Falcon.ie

Right quick question.

My ex broke up with me back in November and just before that I took things for granted a bit and got a year lease on an apartment in close proximity to herself, with the same Dart stop nearby. And on top of that we also have the same work Dart stop as well. So there is plenty of chances to run into her..

So basically after the first 5-6 months of of me trying to avoid her by getting up at 7.30am(Usually not working until 9.30) to catch an earlier Dart is starting to ware me down a bit.. Now I have seen her the odd time, the very odd morning I get up late or finish late.

The question is do I go back to normal and start getting up at reasonable times or stick to what i've been doing, don't want her to think I'm stalking her or that, it's just been a horrible mix of circumstances..

BettePorter

well surely she knows you have the same dart stop and an apartment nearby if you had them before you split.........so she has as much reason to feel as paranoid as you do about being considered a stalker ! unless of course you ARE considering stalking her and are just looking for validation here !!!!!:P:eek::P

Black Swan

Be glad you live in Dub and not a small town. Just go about your business and chill.

Falcon.ie

That's the thing I had taken the apartment literally the weekend before we split(cruel irony IMO..) And I had accepted a new job offer the previous week, considering I was previously exiled to Limerick for the last 12months before that...

I just don't want any hassle to be honest, we didn't end on great terms really and I was just tempted to reopen an old email account where I've stored her contact details and send her a quick message, hench why I'm posting here first! Something saying along the lines of I've seen you about over the last few weeks, you're looking well and that, keep, just to dispel any awkwardness I suppose? I don't know anymore...

unattendedbag

Stick the ipod in and walk on. Act as if u dont know her, get onto a different carriage, walk on and blank her when getting off. This will become a routine that it'll soon become second nature and you wont even notice if she's on the same platform or not.

2manyconditions

unattendedbag wrote: »

Stick the ipod in and walk on. Act as if u dont know her, get onto a different carriage, walk on and blank her when getting off. This will become a routine that it'll soon become second nature and you wont even notice if she's on the same platform or not.

I'd take the above advice - don't email.

If you still feel uncomfortable in a few months (Nov isn't that long away), don't renew the contract.

BettePorter

Falcon.ie wrote: »

Something saying along the lines of I've seen you about over the last few weeks, you're looking well and that,

lol you think she might think you're stalking her cause you share a dart stop?????lol send her the above email and its a restraining order she'll be gettin !

seriously though, just leave it, acknowledge her when you see her with a nod or something but if you make contact via e mail and she responds in kind you are then technically back in the 'friends' camp.....which would end up being MORE awkward, cause then you'd feel you had to talk to each other every morning or evening. But then, reading betweeen the lines here....methinks that is your intention anyway;);)

Falcon.ie

I've no idea what my expectations are to be honest, I'd just prefer no akwardness to be fair, If I happen to see her I usually walk to the opposite end of the Dart stop and stick a book up with my iPod in, I think I'll just keep doing what I'm doing and continue along.