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Think my father has lost it

  • 23-05-2010 8:37pm
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    LegacyUser
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    Hi, I am in a bit of a weird situation at home. I am 22 and have been just living at home temporary over the past few months. I am due to leave soon to go abroad to work but the climate between my parents is very bad. Without going to much in to it (coz it would take forever), my dad is in my opinion not fully well mentally. He is involved with another who although he claims to have ended it with, he refuses to cut ties with. This person is also mentally unwell and trouble to be around in general. She arrived at our house recently late at night heavily intoxicated wanting to see my father. This person has caused my mother nothing but grief (naturally) so I told her where to go. My father brought here in to the house and when I told him that she must go, he threatened me that either she stays or I go. I had a college exam the next morning so I restrained and after about an hour she left. All this was going on with my mother in the house also who is powerless to do anything.

    Its a really messed up situation because when my father is challenged about this other woman he is very capable of getting violent. Had I not backed down the other nite and actually tried to remove this drunk woman (who is extremely troubled) from our home, then I have no doubt he would have would have went for me. This has never happened in the past but with this woman in the picture he is 100& capable of getting violent with me or my mother. I can take care of myself but I do worry for my mother and when I am not around I fear that this will all break out. She has told him several times to leave the home if he didn't want to be here but he has never left. Normally there is no threat of violence from my father but when this other woman enters the picture he is simply another person.

    Another reason I think he isn't mentally well is his lack of comprehension as to why I acted the way I did when she called to our house looking to come in. I mean this woman has caused my whole family nothing but grief and he actually thinks I was out of order trying to get rid of her. I dunno what to do, I feel bad leaving my mother in this turbulent environment with him.


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