What should I do?

A.Random

Hey so just thought I'd run this past people and see what they say.

So I'm on a dating site and I've started chatting to this woman on the site.

Now we've only e-mailed a few times so it's not like we've found out alot about eachother, but I know that she appears funny, intelligent and witty. She has told me that she thinks I look cute and that I'm funny (I don't know how true both these are haha).:p

But anyway my question is, should I just ask her for her number with the intention of asking her to meet up soon.

Like I'm fairly live and let live, and I think that if you're getting on with someone there's no reason in not just going for it.:cool:

Like if I got her number I'd probably ask her to meet up soon and see how we get on.

There's no point in stretching things out, might aswell see if there's attraction there.

Anyway what do people think?

LegacyUser

I think you should go for it for sure. I don't see the point in emailing people for weeks/months on these sites as in the real world you could find that there's no attraction there whatsoever. I'm sure she'll be delighted. Good luck:)

ash23

I'd say ask her but she might not want to give her number.
If she says no then ask her out.

Depends on her previous experiences. I know I met a guy for a date and he hounded me after and I'm very careful now about giving out my number. Doesn't mean i'm not interested, it just means I'm careful.

Just ask her to meet up for a coffee. She'll probably end up giving you her number anyway.

Nidot

I say go for. If you think that' you're getting on well you probably are. If you're on a dating site then you both know why you're on the website.

Don't know how long you should be talking to someone before asking for a face-to-face, maybe someone else can clarify what they think.

Katgurl

Ask her to meet for a coffee. I don't see the dilemma?

Red Hand

Meet up for a coffee and see where it goes? No point in dragging it out for months only to be disappointed when ye finally do meet.

Monkey61

Ask her if she wants to meet up. Arrange a time and place and then send her your number in case she is running late or needs to contact you. Presumably she will then send you hers back. That is what I always do anyway.

There is no point fecking about with messages forever. My current girlfriend, who I met online, just sent me a message straight away saying "hey, do you fancy a drink this weekend?" and I was so impressed that I thought, why not? And it was absolutely brilliant. Clicked from the start and have been together ever since.

Before that I have spent weeks exchanging emails with people who have seemed amazing, got on brilliantly, then we have eventually met and just not got on in person at all. It happens, so you might as well find out as soon as possible.

goodmum

Dont ask for her number.
Ask to meet her and arrange a date (coffee perhaps) and take it from there.
Ive done the online stuff and am always scared of the guys who ask for my number at the start. Perhaps it's just me, but I'd rather meet someone and see if we get on before we swap numbers. Just my opinion.
Best of luck OP.

zxcvbnm1

goodmum wrote: »

Ive done the online stuff and am always scared of the guys who ask for my number at the start. Perhaps it's just me, but I'd rather meet someone and see if we get on before we swap numbers. Just my opinion.
Best of luck OP.

So how do you actually meet them without their number??

OP - ask her out over teh internet.
Idf she accepts then it's only natural to swap numbers at that point fopr practical reasons.

carmel27

I would say go for it, What have you got to lose? If you meet up, and theres no mutual attraction, chemistry or whatever between ye, at least you know you gave it your best shot. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

I would, however, very be careful about how much personal information, such as your address, that you give her on the first few dates. Dont want to put you off, but know somebody who recently enough met up with someone they'd been chatting to online for a while. On the computer screen and on the first couple of dates, she came across as a lovely person. But after a couple of wks, she turned out to be a complete bunny boiler (and Im talking epic proportions here) and not only plagued him, but also his family, by contacting them all on facebook, making up horrible stories, and even went as far as visiting his elderly parents house, and only left when they threatened to call the gaurds.

If you meet her and like her, just be careful that you dont give too much away until you start to get to know her.

Be careful and good luck. Let us know what happens!:)