Am I overreacting?

LegacyUser

Just want to see if I am over reacting or if I am right to be p*ssed off with my other half.

A bit of background,We have been together for 6 years now, living together for 5 years. She was away with some of her girlfriends at the weekend and she came back saying that she had great fun on the saturday night, she pretended that she was recently divorced so that in her words "could help the single girls pull" by chatting up guys. Now call me old fashion but I'm livid after hearing this. She said nothing untoward happened and I believe her but I think this is so disrespectful towards me but she sees absolutely nothing wrong with this. So am I just a grumpy old man or am I right to be p*ssed off.

AnonoBoy

anon101 wrote: »

So am I just a grumpy old man or am I right to be p*ssed off.

You're over reacting a bit. She told you why she did it and it's not like any of the guys she was chatting to knew you or she was giving out her phone number to them.

OS119

two minds.

her methodology might be a bit dodgy, in that i can't see what impact her marital/relationship status would have on her friends' ability to get laid, but if you genuinely have no problems with her going on holiday with people who aren't you, and you don't have trust issues, then i fail to see the problem.

on the other hand, because i genuinely can't imagine why she would think that her being 'unavailable' would impact on her friends ability to score, i can only really suggest that she thought that it would impinge on her holiday - not that that neccesarily meant she got laid, rather that perhaps she would have liked the option to say 'no thanks'.

this, of course, is on the premise that she thought it through logically.

ManOfMystery

It's very strange and IMO it's a bit out of order.

How would she have felt if you were away for a lads weekend telling all the girls you were single? I can't see how her telling guys that she was recently divorced would have any bearing on the ability of her friends to pull. It WOULD, however, have a bearing on her ability.

sbsquarepants

Call me a cynic if you want, but i'm calling shenanigans here!
What has her status got to do with her friend scoring? Absolutely nothing, you know it, i know it and everybody else knows it too. So the question then is WHY.
A. Why did she do it?
B. Why is she now telling you?
Perhaps, she is worried that word will get back to you somehow and she is pre-empting this. Maybe one of the people she was chatting up turned out to be a friend of a friend, or connected to you somehow, it's a small world after all.
Basically i have no idea what the reason is, but i would be fairly sure i know what it's not!
Maybe it's just me, but for me, i'm sorry to say that story makes no sense whatsoever.

LegacyUser

anon101 wrote: »

I'm livid after hearing this.

I think you're over-reacting by being livid about it. Annoyed would be a more appropriate emotion. She's your wife, how can you be livid about her doing one thing wrong (unless she's in the habit of doing things like this)
Tell her you're annoyed and to show a bit more respect to what the two of you have

ziedth

My mates were cracking into scotish girls on holiday once and there was one spare (really bitchy) so fo them to get their chance I talked to her.

I told her I made the judges houses in xfactor when shane ward won yadda yadda. It was to amuse myself so I made up a total lie seeing as I wouldn't be actually trying to score her.

So even though it sounds odd there are reasons she could do it.

EDIT: is she your wife or GF? If the former I would actually be annoyed too

The fact that she told you I would take it as her just having fun.

LegacyUser

GF.
I'm p*ssed because I would never do something like that and whether she was only having fun or not she's in a long term relationship so she shouldn't be going out pretending otherwise.

LegacyUser

anon101 wrote: »

GF.
I'm p*ssed because I would never do something like that and whether she was only having fun or not she's in a long term relationship so she shouldn't be going out pretending otherwise.

Tell her that. She's let you down once. Only get livid if she lets you down again

Redpunto

I'm sure she thought at the time she wasnt doing anything wrong but she obviously wanted to flirt with these guys. If anyone approaches me when I'm out (doesnt happen too often ) they're told in two seconds that Im married. You can still have a laugh and a chat but the boundaries have been laid. I know my hubbie would be devastated if I did something similar.

HOwever, if this is a once off I would try and get over it, she was out with the girls, etc. but if trust/flirting is an issue that keeps cropping up and you're not comfortable with that then you'll both need to have a chat.

Does she know how angry you are about it?