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I just dont know

  • 16-05-2010 3:36pm
    #1
    lulu1985
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 79 ✭✭


    hey guys- just a bit of advice on what ye guys think about this- so met this lad about 3 years ago- basically since then our paths have crossed. but either hes been with someone or i have been- so last september he added me to facebook and we met up and hung out for a while- he was just after getting dumped by his ex of 2 and a half years- he was very down (he suffers from depression aswell anyway) but i was there for him- listened to him but then it started to turn into a thing when we were drunk we would end up together(but we always said we were friends and only friends). that went on untill janurary of this year. So in january he changed his status to in a relationship with X and i asked him about it- so that went on for a month. so then i ended up back in his house a saturday night and the next day we were texting and i told him exactly how i felt and we decided to see each other but take it slowly- about 3 days later he said he still has the ex in his head and he needed to get rid of her first and it wasnt fair on me- so i just completly ignored him after that so went on to facebook there about 3 weeks ago- there was a big long email from him- sayin he was thinking about the whole situation and how we got together-he liked me but was afraid to hurt me- he knows now that he wants to be happy he understands if i dont want anything to do with him but his number is x - so i text him about a week later and we were texting for a while and one saturday night he called down to mine and we had a really good chat and spent the next 2days - he said right i have a question will you go out with me? so i said maybe- and now we are seeing each other- he was here friday and we were just chilling out and he said we get on dont we? i was like yeah? he goes yeah i think we do too- but what happens me is that when im with you and were having a great time but then when i go home i start thinking thing- relationships scare the hell out of me. im so afraid of getting hurt (all his relationships have been him getting hurt and dumped)
    what would you think of this? do you think im wasting my time?


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  • #2
    elleburp
    Closed Accounts Posts: 123 ✭✭elleburp


    But we're all afraid of getting hurt. He's so afraid of getting hurt that he's afraid of hurting you and as a result his indecision is hurting you. I can understand that he has his head wrecked but he's just going to keep wrecking your head unless he lets go and just goes for it. He's asked you to go out with him, he's put the relationship status into a boyfriend/girlfriend thing now so what's he playing at? My advice would be to make up your own mind on how long you're going to allow this go on, don't give him a timeline but give yourself a timeline, if he still acts this way by the end of the summer then it's time to ditch him. But be open with him, it 's not fair for him to ask you to be his girlfriend and then semi-change his mind. It's almost as if he wants to be with you once you promise you won't hurt him.... It's no wonder he's been so badly hurt in the past, nobody can promise something like that and I think it's unfair for him to put that pressure on you.


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