Your GFs single mates

Carlos_Ray

I was talking with my friends and we all seem to have similar experiences in this area.

We all have long term girlfriends and noticed that when we first started going out with our partners, we were greeted with a cold reception by their single female friends. ( Its not unusal to be greeted in such a manner by some of their "male mates" but thats a different story).

Anyway the girls could be quite bitchy to us and revelled in sly remarks. However their friends (who were in relationships) were generally really nice.

Then when the single mates finally found men, their atitude completely changed toward us and they started being really nice.

Is this a common experience amongst the lads here? If so, what's the reason? All I can think of is bitterness...

Otis Driftwood

Id put it down to jealousy rather than bitterness.They see their mates dating someone and getting on well yet their on their own,tis human nature.

Come on now,have you not ever felt a little tinge of envy when some of your male friends have met someone special?

Cos I know I have on occasion.

CptMackey

I think it is down to " Your are talking away their friend"

One of my girlfriends friends is still that way after 5 years :rolleyes:

Nervous Wreck

nedtheshed wrote: »

Id put it down to jealousy rather than bitterness.They see their mates dating someone and getting on well yet their on their own,tis human nature.

Come on now,have you not ever felt a little tinge of envy when some of your male friends have met someone special?

Cos I know I have on occasion.

Defo. I've felt the jealousy as well but have always been nice to my mates' gfs anyway. It's not their fault I'm a jealous prick sometimes. Some people are a little more selfish though.

CptMackey wrote: »

I think it is down to " Your are talking away their friend"

One of my girlfriends friends is still that way after 5 years :rolleyes:

This too. I think lads are generally more comfortable in their friendships with each other. We do our own thing and hang out when we can for beers or whatever. Girls put a lot more emphasis on the group dynamic. Being that women are generally a little more emotional then men, they need their mates to be their safety net a lot more. Take away one of their mates and their safety zone gets a little smaller, the feel less comfortable and are a little annoyed about that. Take a lad's best mate away and he'll only really notice on Saturday night when it's time to go on the pull and he's suddenly left searching his phonebook for a wingman.

Little Acorn

CptMackey wrote: »

I think it is down to " Your are talking away their friend"

One of my girlfriends friends is still that way after 5 years :rolleyes:

I'm a female and and I have to say that this is what happened in my experience.
Used to go out every single Friday, Saturday and Sunday if it was a bank holiday with the girls when I was single. When I started going out with my fella [whom I met on a night out with them], the first few nights out they were quite cold towards him[as in not paying him much attention], and if I went out on my own with them, after nightclub and getting something to eat, I'd start looking for a taxi and they'd be like "oh I suppose your going off meeting [insert my boyfriend's name here] now", I'd be like "It's 2:45 in the morning, so yes I am heading back to his place"
I would have spent the entire evening, night, and early hours of the morning with them, but they would still complain that I wouldn't go to a house party with them, that was full of single guys on the pull!

This didn't last for a long time time though, my fella is really likeable so after a few times meeting him, and realising I was still spending time with them they completely changed, started to really like him, raving about how sound and what great craic he is, and started asking me to bring him out more!:)

I did have a few wee problems, where they still expected me to still spend every single weekend out with them, but that passed too-especially when they started going out with people themselves.
So yeah, I'd say it's fairly common.

miss5

My single friends get very jealous if they are not in a relationship.
Very common reaction apparently.

starbelgrade

Breaking news.. women can be quite bitchy at times.

MrStuffins

Man, they're jealous alright! THEY ALL WANT YOU......... but they can't have you!

Those dirty looks they give you are definately dirty, they're mentally undressing you!

I know this because all of my girlfriend's friends are the same. I know they want me because........... let's face it........... they're only human!

ChocolateSauce

Never happened to me....but then again, my gf hates women because they're catty and bitchy (her words, not mine!), so most almost all of her friends are men. Come to think of it, her only female friend is gayer than Graham Norton.

krudler

Been there, done that, got a talking to. "she spends too much time with you" "we feel like you're taking her away from us" blah blah blah. I'm very much in the camp that couples need time aprt as much as together, going out together is always fun but you have different nights out with your seperate friends, guys go to have a few beers, chat, have a laugh. Girls go out to dance, get merry and be,well, girly. I dont want to be imposing on a night where my missus and her lady friends spend hours getting ready then hit the tiles and fall home to climb into their jammies and have a laugh, thats the whole point of having girliefriends!